I disagree. I think men and women should approach much more. We're scared of strangers, we shouldn't be. We also shouldn't accept them with open arms, but the "

I disagree. I think men and women should approach much more. We're scared of strangers, we shouldn't be. We also shouldn't accept them with open arms, but the "stranger danger" thing that we have in our society is too simplistic and toxic IMO. I also approach men, I approach dogs, I approach the world. When people don't like it, I back off. When people like it, I explore the interaction with them. In terms of dating: many women that reject me tell me that they like my approach. I ask for feedback in many cases. I am respectful too. I hold my distance because I respect people. People say that nice guys finish last. I guess they've never thought about nice guys that have a wild side to them and are more hardcore than most bad boys will ever be. There are ways to be incredibly nice and respectful and still have that edge to you. That edge shines through. I don't even tease women as part of my attraction strategy :') On being nice: I think teasing/banter is a bit dysfunctional in many cases and not nice. I know I'm a bit extreme in this and many people think it's okay. I am a bit allergic to it. I'd rather just be playful. Instead of being "dominant" I'd rather be enthusiastic and curious. Instead of being "higher status" I'd rather just be immersed and enthralled by the magic of life and show people that magic that I experience as I want to experience theirs. Experiencing life feels artsy, I like people who enjoy that and that's enough for attraction. Having zest for life means having zest for adventure. It means to have zest for the unknown that people are scared of. Suddenly some women realize that I have much more courage than most people (true or not, that is how it comes across) and are attracted to it. That's how you can be nice to everyone yet still get the attractive traits of a "bad boy". Be adventurous, be passionate, be imaginative and be playful. The only part I had to cultivate here was the adventurous part. I was already curious but scared. Curiosity + courage = adventure! Also, my dating strategy has been working for the past 10+ years. Here's a timeline. 16 - 21: getting the skill. 21 - 22: relationship 1 2 month period of approaching women 22 - 27: relationship 2 2 month period of approaching women 27 - 33: relationship 3 8 month period of approaching women & Tinder (I got really rusty) Now I'm on relationship 4. Also, the relationships get better and better. One can never be sure, but I believe this relationship is for life. So all in all, I've been out there for a period of 12 months between relationships and in the past for 5 years as a teenager. No woman has ever been hitting on me, so when I'm in a relationship, there's nothing going on with other women ever - not even flirting. I like it that way. People have long forgotten me by now.