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> 1. Volume * conversion That's the key, it's the only two variables that matters. However, this is also the reason why it's hard for a lot of men to get a mat

by gwervc 3y ago

> 1. Volume * conversion That's the key, it's the only two variables that matters. However, this is also the reason why it's hard for a lot of men to get a mate: Number of interactions IRL is harder and harder to get with the cultural shift to online apps and the demonization of male appraoch and behavior ("sexual harassment", "male gaze", "toxic masculinity"). And voicing about being single is associated with negative traits such as being misogynistic to the point research paper are published... Then regarding the conversion rate, when in the low single digit, it's rapidly hard to get motivated after facing dozens or hundreds of rejection.

mettamage 3y ago
> Number of interactions IRL is harder and harder to get It is but it is not as hard as one might think. One needs to double down on being respectful. Also, do note that this is more of a thing in the US than in Europe. It's also a thing in Europe, but the US is simply more extreme. But even in the US women were pretty chill. The biggest thing you need to simultaneously show (alongside attractive traits) is that you're reasonable and respectful. I agree it's hard to get motivated. I've had the good fortune that I worked on this when I was young. So even when I get rejected a lot if I'd be dating right now (2 years ago was the last time), I'd still carry on. I think people in general look at rejection the wrong way. Rejection should be observed ("oh this person doesn't want this, alright"), not interpreted ("I knew it, I suck and am unattractive, duh!").