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I don't know why people are so negative in the comments or overthinking what the author wanted to say, when it's pretty clear. Running the company is what made

I don't know why people are so negative in the comments or overthinking what the author wanted to say, when it's pretty clear. Running the company is what made him tick, made him feel alive, and ultimately made him happy. He's cashed out, but sitting around thumb twiddling and maintaining the pile of cash might be an ok life, might make some people happy, but it's not making him happy. There's nothing wrong with any of that. The advice you can get from that is, figure out what it is that makes you enjoy life. If it's feeling secure because you have a pile of cash, then you will do the same as him, but be satisfied with the decision.

iancmceachern 3y ago
Totally, you do you. I love the movie birdman, on the topic.
neilv 3y ago
I thought it was a refreshingly humble and honest-sounding post, by someone who'd done a lot of reflection. Of course, not everyone matches the writer's motivations, and he went and told the reader what those motivations are.
bberenberg 3y ago
Maybe this needs an update to the post. I am happy. My life is amazing in terms of health, fitness, diet, family life, where I live, travel etc. But I am also without a driving force. It gives me a new appreciation for the athletes or musician who un-retires.
- locallost 3y ago
  I apologize, I never wanted to imply somebody I don't know is unhappy, guess it kind of came off wrong. Wish you anyway all the best and thanks for a very clear blog post.
- csdvrx 3y ago
  > But I am also without a driving force. It gives me a new appreciation for the athletes or musician who un-retires. I have a friend who phrased that very well: the problem is "you're waiting for death" because a life without a "driving force" is just waiting for death, as it will eventually do its part. > I am happy. My life is amazing in terms of health, fitness, diet, family life, where I live, travel etc. Waiting can be happy, but it's still waiting. Also, how things are during the wait will change: fitness and health aren't perfect forever, likewise family members aren't immortals No judgement value is implied: that's what retirees do, and what most people aspire to do, so it shouldn't be so bad. Yet I believe we as human beings need things to do.
- TapWaterBandit 3y ago
  I don't think it does need an update, it came across quite clearly in the article that you were pretty happy with life in general but felt that selling the company took away a sense of purpose/identity that you hadn't expected. Was a really interesting read and gave me a lot to think about as a (hopefully) future founder!
ryandrake 3y ago
Yet Person A, who just sold his startup and is sitting on $10M is objectively better off than Person B, who is making $200K a year at a normal job in tech. All other intangible things being equal, Person A's wealth will earn him $2-400K a year just sitting there doing nothing, giving him the choice to go get a normal job if desired, or not, or do anything he wants to do for fun, or not. That startup sale bought him the option to do whatever "makes him tick, makes him feel alive, and ultimately makes him happy" Whereas Person B has no option--if he wants to keep his $200K lifestyle he needs to keep grinding. I'd trade places with Person A any time!
- nprateem 3y ago
  You assume you can buy happiness. Person A is not objectively better off, they're financially better off. Happiness isn't determined solely by bank balance. If what made him tick was a sense of purpose, of seeing the company he founded continue to grow there aren't many options apart from go back to the company, found a new one, or ??? Maybe option 2 is too much work, and without the carrot of a big payoff he'd lack the drive. You'd happily trade places because you believe money buys happiness. This person has learnt it does not.
  - ryandrake 3y ago
    Money buys you the option to opt out of the things that don't bring you happiness and to go do whatever it is that does bring you happiness. For this guy, maybe it's "do another startup." Great! With $10M in the bank, he can just go do that! For me, I could quit my job (which does not bring me happiness) and maybe build a sailboat... or travel... or raise a family... Or whatever makes me happy. That's the option that money buys.
    - halfmatthalfcat 3y ago
      The phrase "Mo money, mo problems" didn't come out nowhere. Sure, you can leverage the money to do things that could bring you happiness but you have no idea the long term effects (potentially subliminal) of having more.
    - 3y ago

iancmceachern 3y ago

Totally, you do you. I love the movie birdman, on the topic.

neilv 3y ago

I thought it was a refreshingly humble and honest-sounding post, by someone who'd done a lot of reflection. Of course, not everyone matches the writer's motivations, and he went and told the reader what those motivations are.

bberenberg 3y ago

Maybe this needs an update to the post. I am happy. My life is amazing in terms of health, fitness, diet, family life, where I live, travel etc. But I am also without a driving force. It gives me a new appreciation for the athletes or musician who un-retires.

locallost 3y ago
I apologize, I never wanted to imply somebody I don't know is unhappy, guess it kind of came off wrong. Wish you anyway all the best and thanks for a very clear blog post.
csdvrx 3y ago
> But I am also without a driving force. It gives me a new appreciation for the athletes or musician who un-retires. I have a friend who phrased that very well: the problem is "you're waiting for death" because a life without a "driving force" is just waiting for death, as it will eventually do its part. > I am happy. My life is amazing in terms of health, fitness, diet, family life, where I live, travel etc. Waiting can be happy, but it's still waiting. Also, how things are during the wait will change: fitness and health aren't perfect forever, likewise family members aren't immortals No judgement value is implied: that's what retirees do, and what most people aspire to do, so it shouldn't be so bad. Yet I believe we as human beings need things to do.
TapWaterBandit 3y ago
I don't think it does need an update, it came across quite clearly in the article that you were pretty happy with life in general but felt that selling the company took away a sense of purpose/identity that you hadn't expected. Was a really interesting read and gave me a lot to think about as a (hopefully) future founder!

ryandrake 3y ago

Yet Person A, who just sold his startup and is sitting on $10M is objectively better off than Person B, who is making $200K a year at a normal job in tech. All other intangible things being equal, Person A's wealth will earn him $2-400K a year just sitting there doing nothing, giving him the choice to go get a normal job if desired, or not, or do anything he wants to do for fun, or not. That startup sale bought him the option to do whatever "makes him tick, makes him feel alive, and ultimately makes him happy" Whereas Person B has no option--if he wants to keep his $200K lifestyle he needs to keep grinding. I'd trade places with Person A any time!

nprateem 3y ago
You assume you can buy happiness. Person A is not objectively better off, they're financially better off. Happiness isn't determined solely by bank balance. If what made him tick was a sense of purpose, of seeing the company he founded continue to grow there aren't many options apart from go back to the company, found a new one, or ??? Maybe option 2 is too much work, and without the carrot of a big payoff he'd lack the drive. You'd happily trade places because you believe money buys happiness. This person has learnt it does not.
- ryandrake 3y ago
  Money buys you the option to opt out of the things that don't bring you happiness and to go do whatever it is that does bring you happiness. For this guy, maybe it's "do another startup." Great! With $10M in the bank, he can just go do that! For me, I could quit my job (which does not bring me happiness) and maybe build a sailboat... or travel... or raise a family... Or whatever makes me happy. That's the option that money buys.
  - halfmatthalfcat 3y ago
    The phrase "Mo money, mo problems" didn't come out nowhere. Sure, you can leverage the money to do things that could bring you happiness but you have no idea the long term effects (potentially subliminal) of having more.
  - 3y ago