I've got tunnel vision as well. I cannot say I obsess, but I don't have eyes or desire for anyone but her. > I give them way too much attention and they lose r

I've got tunnel vision as well. I cannot say I obsess, but I don't have eyes or desire for anyone but her. > I give them way too much attention and they lose respect for me. I've done this. There's a balance in remaining an individual and committing fully to a relationship. I think there's a lie in the idea of being subsumed by a relationship. You have to maintain your heading and keep the winds of purpose at your back. Don't lose speed just because your heart is full. If she's game, she'll be more than capable of keeping up.