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Yes, it is fine to move on. But it's also fine to want to stay and fix these things. > There's no point in accommodating yourself to a relationship that is br

by Teever 3y ago

Yes, it is fine to move on. But it's also fine to want to stay and fix these things. > There's no point in accommodating yourself to a relationship that is broken, via the use of drugs. How do you feel about drug use in general? It seems to me that it isn't so much that you're critical of therapeutic drug use in a couples counselling context so much as you're opposed to drug use entirely? Is that accurate?

verisimi 3y ago
No. I'm fine for people do drugs, if that's what they want to do. Their life, their choice. As long as they aren't harming anyone else. Do drugs recreationally if you like, with the person you're in a relationship with - no problem. I'm saying you shouldn't take drugs to change yourself to accommodate something that you already know makes you unhappy. To me, it sounds (roughly) equivalent to getting drunk to deal with a broken arm - it's not really a solution that is going to work in the long run. Re fixing things, of course one should try this! But if the fix is to take drugs... either you don't know what 'fixing' means (and, imo, it's 'talking things through') or, if you have tried talking and that failed, the relationship is probably already irredeemably broken. No need to contort yourself further, take your loss. Put simply, I think you need to concentrate yourself, not dilute yourself for the benefit of others. You should do what makes you stronger. And happiness is your guide, or in reverse, unhappiness is your guide of what not to do. Buying happiness in a pill is not the long term answer.
- pegasus 3y ago
  Certain drugs, amongst them MDMA, can help with talking things through. Both in relationship with others and with oneself (self-reflection). GP never encouraged couples to numb themselves (opiates would be more conducive to that).

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Yes, it is fine to move on. But it's also fine to want to stay and fix these things. > There's no point in accommodating yourself to a relationship that is br

by Teever 3y ago

verisimi 3y ago
No. I'm fine for people do drugs, if that's what they want to do. Their life, their choice. As long as they aren't harming anyone else. Do drugs recreationally if you like, with the person you're in a relationship with - no problem. I'm saying you shouldn't take drugs to change yourself to accommodate something that you already know makes you unhappy. To me, it sounds (roughly) equivalent to getting drunk to deal with a broken arm - it's not really a solution that is going to work in the long run. Re fixing things, of course one should try this! But if the fix is to take drugs... either you don't know what 'fixing' means (and, imo, it's 'talking things through') or, if you have tried talking and that failed, the relationship is probably already irredeemably broken. No need to contort yourself further, take your loss. Put simply, I think you need to concentrate yourself, not dilute yourself for the benefit of others. You should do what makes you stronger. And happiness is your guide, or in reverse, unhappiness is your guide of what not to do. Buying happiness in a pill is not the long term answer.
- pegasus 3y ago
  Certain drugs, amongst them MDMA, can help with talking things through. Both in relationship with others and with oneself (self-reflection). GP never encouraged couples to numb themselves (opiates would be more conducive to that).