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Why should you care how someone labels you? Often people do that to coerce others into behaviour that is not in the victim best interest. If something doesn't

Why should you care how someone labels you? Often people do that to coerce others into behaviour that is not in the victim best interest. If something doesn't feel right to you, just quit or call it an exit.

GuB-42 3y ago
Where I work there are many companies, it is very common for employees of one company to leave for another in the vicinity. I am one of them. And I can tell you they all know each other so how you are labeled matters. If you quit for a good reason (including pay or a job that doesn't match your expectations) no one will have a problem. But if you are perceived as an asshole to the rest of the team, it can be a problem as these team members may have contacts, even friends, in the companies you may apply to.
- varispeed 3y ago
  > But if you are perceived as an asshole to the rest of the team That sounds toxic to be fair, if you are treated like this just because you didn't stick with the business you didn't feel right. On the other hand it's a great pre-emptor if the company you are applying to values opinion of such people. It's really better to not work at such places.
johnnyanmac 3y ago
>Why should you care how someone labels you? well, words have power and I don't want to be labeled as a creep. If it impacts my reputation I should absolutely care.
bizzleDawg 3y ago
When I "quit my startup" that involved making several people redundant, letting down customers, and announcing that I'd been able to make it work. I was also fearful of the potential that my name would be tarnished in the local tech scene as being unreliable, or unlikely to follow through with future projects. Think of Google's reputation when it comes to new products getting axed after half-assed efforts, but applied to a founder. How others label you does matter when it comes to operating in a society IMHO, even if that could be classed as coercion.
lozf 3y ago
Precisely. I suggest a healthy dose of "What other people think of me is none of my business", 2 or 3 times a day until symptoms diminish.

GuB-42 3y ago

Where I work there are many companies, it is very common for employees of one company to leave for another in the vicinity. I am one of them. And I can tell you they all know each other so how you are labeled matters. If you quit for a good reason (including pay or a job that doesn't match your expectations) no one will have a problem. But if you are perceived as an asshole to the rest of the team, it can be a problem as these team members may have contacts, even friends, in the companies you may apply to.

varispeed 3y ago
> But if you are perceived as an asshole to the rest of the team That sounds toxic to be fair, if you are treated like this just because you didn't stick with the business you didn't feel right. On the other hand it's a great pre-emptor if the company you are applying to values opinion of such people. It's really better to not work at such places.

johnnyanmac 3y ago

>Why should you care how someone labels you? well, words have power and I don't want to be labeled as a creep. If it impacts my reputation I should absolutely care.

bizzleDawg 3y ago

When I "quit my startup" that involved making several people redundant, letting down customers, and announcing that I'd been able to make it work. I was also fearful of the potential that my name would be tarnished in the local tech scene as being unreliable, or unlikely to follow through with future projects. Think of Google's reputation when it comes to new products getting axed after half-assed efforts, but applied to a founder. How others label you does matter when it comes to operating in a society IMHO, even if that could be classed as coercion.

lozf 3y ago

Precisely. I suggest a healthy dose of "What other people think of me is none of my business", 2 or 3 times a day until symptoms diminish.