After reading your title, I wanted to comment the same as you last paragraph: that I'm working on getting my shit together. I liked to worked on tech, and I did

After reading your title, I wanted to comment the same as you last paragraph: that I'm working on getting my shit together. I liked to worked on tech, and I didn't like to take care of other things, so if you look around in my life's garden, it's all overgrowth, mold, rot, and walls so that this all doesn't get to me. Adding more tech, or working on yet another something else won't help this situation, but it would need a lot of energy from me, so I don't do it. What I did in my work so that it supports me on the journey is that I moved from software engineer to lower management. Lots of new types of problems, and lots of new ways to me to connect to people and tech. Often, I came to think, new is not the answer. Rather it's something that I distracted myself with. Extra energy also doesn't come by introducing more energy to the system. I also use the max already. The effort is better spent in conserving it, and building a system where it recharges faster.