Eh I walked into being full time dad of 3 kids from two different biological dads 4.5yrs ago. Not much has changed really. I talk to my partner and mates for m

Eh I walked into being full time dad of 3 kids from two different biological dads 4.5yrs ago. Not much has changed really. I talk to my partner and mates for mental health support. Re. time to yo self, I still have the same hours in the day, I chose to spend that time w my family by walking into this life. It's still my time. I just love spending it all with my family. Kids are great and my misso is my best friend. It's epic. Need an hour to myself? Well lucky I get up before the rest of the household does. Great time for some stretching and drum and bass. My misso makes me play CS2 with my long running homies if I haven't for a week or two. She knows it's how I keep in touch with most of my close mates. One thing I have realized is. Tech and dad are a shitty combo. IT is high stress, zero job security work. Case in point. All the industry certs aren't nationalized approved certs/licenses, most are company or product based. Which if the industry moves on your up shit creek. Builders or plumbers or sparky license on the other hand...always relevant, doesn't change according to which company is flavor of the month. Easy af to go work alone as builder or normal trade. Whilst you can do this in IT (currently what I do) it's hyper stressful and you have less job security than being a statistic for a big firm. This basically compounds on the stressor of being a parent. I've found IT is completely sh*t when looking at employee mental health. They treat the concept of your mental health like crap so it gets swept under the rug. Never had a heart to heart convo about some mental health problem from any peer in IT. Have had plenty of yarns w old tradies and bosses in labouring about it tho and gotten plenty of tips along the way.