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Who do you talk to about stuff? -> Most age peers don't have kids yet, so I rebuild relationships with people I went to high school with that do have kids. Do
by rogerkirkness 3y ago
Who do you talk to about stuff? -> Most age peers don't have kids yet, so I rebuild relationships with people I went to high school with that do have kids.
Do you have any time for yourself? -> One kid is not that bad from a free time perspective, but when you have two there's maybe five hours a week for each parent and it ends up being zero sum with two (or more) on one childcare.
Where are all the tech dads? -> Age peers in tech don't seem to have kids despite being the small slice of people arguably able to comfortably afford it. Mostly seem to bank up cash and have kids in mid to late 30s and slow lane themselves.
I wrote a bit about my experience being a founder and a dad where I started my company in the same month as my wife and I found out she was pregnant with our first child. Link here: https://rogerkirkness.com/founder-and-father https://rogerkirkness.com/founder-and-father
- throwaway413 3y agoAgree with all of this. As a single parent though it’s hard to find the free time - for me, only during school hours (work time) or if I explicitly arrange child care, which is rare because well, usually I want to and am doing activities with my kid. Being a younger dad relative to my kids age, it has been very isolating and challenging to find anyone who shares my lifestyle, my responsibilities, who can really understand the stage of life I am in. They are usually either very pre-kid and enjoy life independently, without much awareness or desire thereof to the responsibility of parenthood, or, they are on the opposite end and fully settled down and have forgotten what a city looks like after dark.