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Dating sites put a massive thumb on the scale to looks, probably to everyone’s detriment in the long run. Looks become less important if you know someone throu
by eapressoandcats 3y ago
Dating sites put a massive thumb on the scale to looks, probably to everyone’s detriment in the long run.
Looks become less important if you know someone through work, or your friends set you up, or you meet at an activity.
- danenania 3y agoI think it's also because dating sites give relatively high signal on looks and low signal on personality/chemistry. People don't necessarily filter by looks on dating sites because looks is what matters most to them, but because looks is the only dimension they have reliable enough information available to filter on. Imagine a 1-10 scale for looks, personality, and chemistry, and imagine that a person has some minimum sum that they're looking for--say they want at least a 20 across these three categories. If dating sites give you an accurate read on looks to within 2 points, personality within 4 points, and chemistry within 6 points, then the fastest and most reliable strategy to achieve the 20 would be to filter first by looks on the dating app, then filter the other qualities in person where you can get a better measure.