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Attractiveness is the #1 predictor of success on dating apps which as of 2024 account for a major slice of dating. Saying "dating apps aren't real life" makes n

by cedws 3y ago

Attractiveness is the #1 predictor of success on dating apps which as of 2024 account for a major slice of dating. Saying "dating apps aren't real life" makes no sense because dating apps are real life, and meeting people in person is becoming less and less common. You can be the most kind and funny person in the world, but if you don't get matches on dating apps, you're going to have a hard time.

layer8 3y ago
The article isn’t saying that attractiveness and financials aren’t important, but that incels are overestimating them, presumably relative to their real/average importance. My point in the GP post is that they may not actually be overestimating them relative to their personal experience.
- cedws 3y ago
  I see, thanks. I think it is hard to overestimate the importance of looks if they're the barrier to you simply getting started. But this is the realm of social sciences, so I guess none of this research is concrete anyway.
- giantg2 3y ago
  "presumably relative to their real/average importance." It's relative to what the female participants self reported as being important. "My point in the GP post is that they may not actually be overestimating them relative to their personal experience." Agreed. "The article isn’t saying that attractiveness and financials aren’t important, but that incels are overestimating them," The actual study shows both incel and non-incel groups had similar estimation "errors" but with incels being slightly to somewhat farther from the baseline.
- corethree 3y ago
  Maybe, but that's hardly a big deal. It's like overestimating the importance of keeping your eyes open while driving. I would argue that the majority of people underestimate or even lie about the importance of looks.
foogazi 3y ago
> You can be the most kind and funny person in the world, but if you don't get matches on dating apps, you're going to have a hard time. People in you day to day life would notice you being the “most kind and funny person in the world”, you stand out in school, word would spread “you have to meet them”, you get invited to parties, events, you meet people outside of apps

by cedws 3y ago

layer8 3y ago

The article isn’t saying that attractiveness and financials aren’t important, but that incels are overestimating them, presumably relative to their real/average importance. My point in the GP post is that they may not actually be overestimating them relative to their personal experience.

cedws 3y ago
I see, thanks. I think it is hard to overestimate the importance of looks if they're the barrier to you simply getting started. But this is the realm of social sciences, so I guess none of this research is concrete anyway.
giantg2 3y ago
"presumably relative to their real/average importance." It's relative to what the female participants self reported as being important. "My point in the GP post is that they may not actually be overestimating them relative to their personal experience." Agreed. "The article isn’t saying that attractiveness and financials aren’t important, but that incels are overestimating them," The actual study shows both incel and non-incel groups had similar estimation "errors" but with incels being slightly to somewhat farther from the baseline.
corethree 3y ago
Maybe, but that's hardly a big deal. It's like overestimating the importance of keeping your eyes open while driving. I would argue that the majority of people underestimate or even lie about the importance of looks.

foogazi 3y ago

> You can be the most kind and funny person in the world, but if you don't get matches on dating apps, you're going to have a hard time. People in you day to day life would notice you being the “most kind and funny person in the world”, you stand out in school, word would spread “you have to meet them”, you get invited to parties, events, you meet people outside of apps