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And then every other movie where the boy tries to get the girl teaches men that they have to "trick" women into liking them through complicated schemes of prete
by kaetemi 3y ago
And then every other movie where the boy tries to get the girl teaches men that they have to "trick" women into liking them through complicated schemes of pretend personalities.
- 1shooner 3y agoHow common is this trope anymore, though? I feel like it's been passe for at least 10 years, and maybe longer.
- kaetemi 3y agoNo idea, but the current eligible generations definitely grew up with that.
- corethree 3y agoIf you ever been married you'll know an aspect of this is true. You can't be fully honest and open with your partner. A simple example demonstrates the case. It's unlikely for your partner to be your top choice. It's just a statistical given... But you can never reveal that. That's where the dishonesty and "pretend" comes in. And this is just one example of many. There is always going to be an aspect of "pretend" in every relationship. Sure Incels are extreme in one end of the spectrum. But the status quo is also a bit extreme in the sense that its description of relationships is a little too idealistic.
- 1shooner 3y ago>It's unlikely for your partner to be your top choice. It's just a statistical given... But you can never reveal that. Another possibility is to have a shared understanding of your relationship that isn't based on this deception/omission/pretense. I'd say that's the norm in stable long-term relationships, from those that I know.
- corethree 3y agoYou know of couples who talk about how their partners aren't their first choice openly or how they think other people are more attractive? If it exists it's incredibly rare.