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People can always find a reason to rationalize why they’re not doing what they say they want to be doing.
by paulcole 3y ago
People can always find a reason to rationalize why they’re not doing what they say they want to be doing.
- marcus0x62 3y agoIt could also be possible that other people experience mental fatigue differently than you do.
- Retric 3y agoIt’s also possible people are talking about mental fatigue when they’re really dealing with depression. If you’re mentally exhausted from work then going for a walk through a park is relaxing enough to regain some energy. If you’re depressed then you would still be vegging out on the weekend. Which isn’t to say vegging out sometimes is a bad sign. Watching TV is fun in moderation.
- paulcole 3y agoYes, but that doesn't change the fact that what I said is true. > People can always find a reason to rationalize why they’re not doing what they say they want to be doing. Believing that's true can help you decide if you are responsible for not reaching your goals or if you truly are the victim of circumstance.
- marcus0x62 3y agoWhat you wrote is true only in the narrowest sense: of course people “can” rationalize. People also “can” fly to the moon. That doesn’t mean that is what people are doing, and it comes across as deeply unempathetic to express as a default assumption.
- paulcole 3y agoIt's not my default assumption. It's just true. I understand that people can be legitimately held back by circumstances outside of their direct control. That is also true. I believe that on average people tend to like to take credit for their accomplishments and find someone/something to blame for their lack of accomplishments. Ask the people who would've gone pro if their high school coach hadn't been a dick. Or who got passed over for a promotion because of work politics.
- marcus0x62 3y agoRepeatedly claiming your opinion is true does not make it so.
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- Retric 3y agoIt doesn’t make it false either.
- marcus0x62 3y agoIf the other poster has some evidence for what he believes he can divine about what other people are thinking, I’d love to hear it.
- paulcole 3y agoLiterally looking at the world and talking to people.
- paulcole 3y agoI get that you don't want it to be true but that doesn't make it false. Saying "The sun rises in the east" over and over doesn't make it true. It's true because it's true no matter how many times I say it.
- marcus0x62 3y agoYou can see the sun rise in the east. Despite what you seem to believe, you cannot see what is going on inside someone else’s head, which is essentially what you are claiming to be able to do.
- paulcole 3y agoI don't need to see into their heads. They have mouths and I have ears. I can literally hear people talk and not take accountability for their situations. Perhaps internally they are taking accountability but all the evidence I have says that many do not.
- badpun 3y agoThat's perhaps true, but the lack of energy is also simultaneously true. Just a tougher-than-usual week at work can give me crippling headaches from pushing myself to the brink. The time after work is definitely spent recuperating, so that I can fight another day.
- paulcole 3y agoNo, it’s definitely true. Other things can be true as well, of course. But if you’re not accomplishing the things you want to accomplish you should deeply consider the possibility that you’re lying to yourself before you accept that your circumstances are at fault.
- badpun 3y agoFor some people, yeah. For others - you don't argue with a an attack of crippling headache, you lie paralysed in a convulsive spasm, waiting for it to pass. And then you remember that you perhaps should rest more.
- paulcole 3y agoI didn't say: > You can always find a reason to rationalize why you're not doing what you say you want to be doing. I did say: > People can always find a reason to rationalize why they’re not doing what they say they want to be doing. That statement is true.