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I understand this rationale, but personally I have an extremely hard time disconnecting from work. It sucks 40 hours a week, which is most of my "alive" time, a

I understand this rationale, but personally I have an extremely hard time disconnecting from work. It sucks 40 hours a week, which is most of my "alive" time, also sucks my brain stamina. Finding life outside of work is not easy, and considering that your main "alive time" activity is something that shouldn't be a pleasure, and is a f*cking battle, feels bad.

Retric 3y ago
A full time job is generally under 2,000 hours a year while you’re awake ~5,840 (16 * 365) hours a year. Overtime, long commutes, and thinking about the job at home can make it seem like all you do is work, but it’s possible to spend 40 hours a week having fun while you also have a full time job. Remember use your vacation and sick days, and say no to excessive unpaid overtime.
- lobsterthief 3y ago
  I refuse to work anywhere that requires me to work over 40 hours a week. You can ask up front what that expectation is and start looking for another job if they violate it.
- badpun 3y ago
  Most people don't have nearly inexaustible amount of energy, so they need to rest and recuperate (merely just sleeping will not do it for them). So, if they have a demanding job, the 40 hours of week of having fun outside of work will largely consist of vegging on the coach in front of some TV show, or some similar low-energy activity.
  - paulcole 3y ago
    People can always find a reason to rationalize why they’re not doing what they say they want to be doing.
    - marcus0x62 3y ago
      It could also be possible that other people experience mental fatigue differently than you do.
      - Retric 3y ago
        It’s also possible people are talking about mental fatigue when they’re really dealing with depression. If you’re mentally exhausted from work then going for a walk through a park is relaxing enough to regain some energy. If you’re depressed then you would still be vegging out on the weekend. Which isn’t to say vegging out sometimes is a bad sign. Watching TV is fun in moderation.
      - paulcole 3y ago
        Yes, but that doesn't change the fact that what I said is true. > People can always find a reason to rationalize why they’re not doing what they say they want to be doing. Believing that's true can help you decide if you are responsible for not reaching your goals or if you truly are the victim of circumstance.
        marcus0x62 3y ago
        What you wrote is true only in the narrowest sense: of course people “can” rationalize. People also “can” fly to the moon. That doesn’t mean that is what people are doing, and it comes across as deeply unempathetic to express as a default assumption.
        paulcole 3y ago
        It's not my default assumption. It's just true. I understand that people can be legitimately held back by circumstances outside of their direct control. That is also true. I believe that on average people tend to like to take credit for their accomplishments and find someone/something to blame for their lack of accomplishments. Ask the people who would've gone pro if their high school coach hadn't been a dick. Or who got passed over for a promotion because of work politics.
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Retric 3y ago

A full time job is generally under 2,000 hours a year while you’re awake ~5,840 (16 * 365) hours a year. Overtime, long commutes, and thinking about the job at home can make it seem like all you do is work, but it’s possible to spend 40 hours a week having fun while you also have a full time job. Remember use your vacation and sick days, and say no to excessive unpaid overtime.

lobsterthief 3y ago
I refuse to work anywhere that requires me to work over 40 hours a week. You can ask up front what that expectation is and start looking for another job if they violate it.
badpun 3y ago
Most people don't have nearly inexaustible amount of energy, so they need to rest and recuperate (merely just sleeping will not do it for them). So, if they have a demanding job, the 40 hours of week of having fun outside of work will largely consist of vegging on the coach in front of some TV show, or some similar low-energy activity.
- paulcole 3y ago
  People can always find a reason to rationalize why they’re not doing what they say they want to be doing.
  - marcus0x62 3y ago
    It could also be possible that other people experience mental fatigue differently than you do.
    - Retric 3y ago
      It’s also possible people are talking about mental fatigue when they’re really dealing with depression. If you’re mentally exhausted from work then going for a walk through a park is relaxing enough to regain some energy. If you’re depressed then you would still be vegging out on the weekend. Which isn’t to say vegging out sometimes is a bad sign. Watching TV is fun in moderation.
    - paulcole 3y ago
      Yes, but that doesn't change the fact that what I said is true. > People can always find a reason to rationalize why they’re not doing what they say they want to be doing. Believing that's true can help you decide if you are responsible for not reaching your goals or if you truly are the victim of circumstance.
      - marcus0x62 3y ago
        What you wrote is true only in the narrowest sense: of course people “can” rationalize. People also “can” fly to the moon. That doesn’t mean that is what people are doing, and it comes across as deeply unempathetic to express as a default assumption.
        paulcole 3y ago
        It's not my default assumption. It's just true. I understand that people can be legitimately held back by circumstances outside of their direct control. That is also true. I believe that on average people tend to like to take credit for their accomplishments and find someone/something to blame for their lack of accomplishments. Ask the people who would've gone pro if their high school coach hadn't been a dick. Or who got passed over for a promotion because of work politics.
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