>More often people shut down or ignore you if you attempt to shame them than actually make the change you want. shame as a tool of change does not work on the

>More often people shut down or ignore you if you attempt to shame them than actually make the change you want. shame as a tool of change does not work on the person being shamed at the time, it works on that person for the future hopefully as they will be afraid to be shamed again and it works on changing the behavior of other peoples because they don't want to get shamed either. Thus as a tool of oppression, as you pointed out, it works great. But also as a tool for enforcing otherwise non-enforced social rules - until of course you meet someone shameless or who feels at least that they can effectively argue against the shaming.