Rather than looking for better ways to think, realize the limitation of thinking itself and observe for yourself how thoughts about your self-worth, what should

Rather than looking for better ways to think, realize the limitation of thinking itself and observe for yourself how thoughts about your self-worth, what should or shouldn't be, and our obsession with constantly measuring and classifying others and our ourselves leads to so much wasted energy and misery in our lives. Also notice that searching out "better" and "worse" ways of thinking are more of the same pattern. Thinking has its place, but it's more important to be aware of what's going on in our mind, rather than trying to use one fragment of thought to control other fragments. In other words, don't feel the need to have a system of concepts about yourself. You are so much more than what can be expressed in language, no matter how sophisticated. Spend that energy becoming more aware of when you get trapped by thoughts of what should be vs. what is, and laugh when you realize how futile it is to try to think your way out of the problems that were created by thought in the first place.