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I see a lot of comments here criticising the post. May be my point of view is different on this, but I liked the post. It's raw and seems honest, like an un-e
by sidcool 3y ago
I see a lot of comments here criticising the post. May be my point of view is different on this, but I liked the post. It's raw and seems honest, like an un-edited version of a stream of thoughts (the author mentions he used speech to text).
The author may have been from a privileged background, but seems to have had his own struggles. I especially liked the following pieces:
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1. I believe many young people struggle with the insecurity of being intelligent. They often feel the need to prove their intelligence by overthinking, excessively planning, and acquiring knowledge before taking action. However, this approach is a waste of time. The more you research, the more you realize how little you actually know. Instead, you just have to do it, even if you're scared.
2. Mike Tyson once said, "If you're favored by God, you're also favored by the devil." It's alright to strive for greatness, but it's equally important to choose goodness. Don't neglect your loved ones for work; time is fleeting. Appreciate people and sincerely express your love for them. Grief is the result of unexpressed love, and the key to avoiding grief is to love abundantly.
3. It is crucial to start practicing self-love. While successful people may attribute their success to their struggles, I believe a significant part of it is simply coming to terms with those struggles. Each person's pain is maximum to them. You have already endured hardships. Seek success because you deserve it and learn to love yourself, rather than punishing yourself for not being good enough.
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- gloryjulio 3y agoAgree. Have similar thoughts here. I totally understand where he comes from. Competitive upbringing and schools (U of Waterloo is of the top CS universities and it's grueling, look it up), faang and silicon valley experiences, I have met many people from the similar backgrounds. If you want to succeed in this environment, either you are 1. naturally talented to deal with all the pressure and competitiveness; 2. relentless work until you burn out; 3. actively develop some kind of coping mechanisms to help you progress. I work in faang and I am not type 1. I did type 2 and then tried to recover from type 3 route. I did have many similar conclusions as he had. Actively work on your mindset does help you to work under such environment.
- jxnlco 3y agoauthor here: >actively develop some kind of coping mechanisms to help you progress. i think this is why i titled it lies i tell myself. i gotta just believe i can choose to be happy.
- sidcool 3y agoHey! Original commenter here. Loved your post. Like I said it's raw and unedited. Good luck!
- AnimalMuppet 3y ago> Grief is the result of unexpressed love, and the key to avoiding grief is to love abundantly. This little bit I'm not sure I agree with. There absolutely is a grief from unexpressed love, but that's not the only grief. There is also grief from something good that ended. "I loved this person for X years, and I expressed that love to them, and they to me, but now they're gone and I can't love them and enjoy their love any longer." There's real grief in that. It may be less bitter than the grief from unexpressed love, but it still hurts.