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> However. I feel constantly discriminated against and treated like I am stupider than I am. And when people listen to me talk, they get incredibly threatened.
by nyssos 3y ago
> However. I feel constantly discriminated against and treated like I am stupider than I am. And when people listen to me talk, they get incredibly threatened. It has taken me years to understand that being around me and listening to me talk, reason and analyze is THREATENING to people. I have had situations where, even after a few meetings where I felt I was just “talking about how things are” the other person left HATING me.
Have those people actually told you this, or is it a conclusion you came to on your own? I ask because your comment pattern-matches quite strongly for me to "mildly autistic person who doesn't realize they're constantly making failed status plays". Here are a few lines that stood out
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> I can write dozens of pages of highly analytical and technical text without making mistakes in real time. I can speed read complex texts and memorize them with a high degree of precision. From the “language” perspective I feel highly gifted and unusual.
"I'm highly gifted and unusual" is much stronger than "I'm a good technical writer."
> It’s like being Usain Bolt except your sprinting lane has an obstacle course in it while everyone else gets to run in a normal lane.
As before, but even worse. Usain Bolt is the fastest sprinter in the world. He's quite literally one in eight billion. You are not.
> I have taught myself advanced skills and switched careers multiple times without the required degrees. Worked at the top companies in the world with PhDs and others.
Having worked with PhDs is not impressive in itself. There are thousands of college sophomores who can say the same.
There are workplaces that carry some serious cachet (though bringing them up unprompted will burn most of it), but vague references to "top companies" won't cut it, and makes me think it's less "fellow at Microsoft Research" and more "software engineer at Microsoft". Which is a fine thing to be - but also a perfectly normal thing to be.
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If your coworkers are getting the same vibe I am, then they're treating you like you're stupider than you really are because you come off as someone who wants to be seen as smarter than they really are. They're annoyed, not threatened.
- fallingknife 3y ago> "I'm highly gifted and unusual" is much stronger than "I'm a good technical writer." Did you stop to think that maybe that was his point? > s before, but even worse. Usain Bolt is the fastest sprinter in the world. He's quite literally one in eight billion. You are not. Or that he didn't mean that literally he is the best in the world? > I have taught myself advanced skills and switched careers multiple times without the required degrees This is legitimately impressive and obviously requires intelligence in the top 1% at minimum. Does it really not occur to you that smart people know they are smart just like people who are good at anything else know they are good at it, and not just trying to make themselves sound smarter than they are?
- nyssos 3y ago> Or that he didn't mean that literally he is the best in the world? Obviously not, but I think OP does sincerely think he's smart enough that he should stand out as exceptional to most of the people he meets - and I think he's probably wrong. Most educated professionals will know dozens of people as talented as him. The people OP is hanging around will know far more, assuming he's describing them accurately: in a room full of > quantum physicists with multiple degrees from Harvard / Stanford / Yale having a 1-in-100 intellect is less than table stakes. There are millions of people that smart in the US alone, and most of them do not share OP's difficulties.
- anonreeeeplor 3y agoYes, I am annoying and that’s why they hate me. :) You are correct. And also my output is 20x higher than theirs.