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> I can write dozens of pages of highly analytical and technical text without making mistakes in real time. I can speed read complex texts and memorize them wit
by lupusreal 3y ago
> I can write dozens of pages of highly analytical and technical text without making mistakes in real time. I can speed read complex texts and memorize them with a high degree of precision. From the “language” perspective I feel highly gifted and unusual. [...] And when people listen to me talk, they get incredibly threatened
If your language skills are as advanced and analytical as you claim, then you should apply that innate skill to the problem of finding ways to communicate without making people feel threatened. For instance, tailor (limit) your vocabulary for your audience and don't correct other people's inconsequential errors. And of course refrain from telling people about how brilliant you are.
If you can't manage the above, then maybe you should recognize that you're not actually as brilliant as you think. This realization could give you a bit more humility and that in turn could help you interact with other people.
- riwsky 3y agolmao that u felt qualified to advise on non-threatening communication, dude
- lupusreal 3y agoLmao, I'm not here to make friends. I see a guy sniffing his own farts and am telling him off. If he's as great as he thinks he wouldn't have the problems he complains about.
- screedauthor 3y agoYou are indeed correct. Imagine writing a whole screed “I’m so smart but everyone else doesn’t think so and they’re wrong”. Imagine being serious about it.
- latentcall 3y ago> don't correct other people's inconsequential errors This is a big one I feel. My best friend has Asperger’s and does this from time to time. A recent example is I was telling him about a Thule roof rack I got for my car. I pronounced it Thool, and he interrupted me and said “actually you should know it’s pronounced Tooly”. It didn’t bother me, but we have a pact that I point out gently when he does things like that. It’s an inconsequential error because it doesn’t really matter how it is pronounced. And some people may find it rude or “know it all” to be corrected like that over something like that.
- DaveExeter 3y agoGive him a copy of "How to win friends". I think this is discussed in Chapter 1.
- anonreeeeplor 3y agoMy problem is going on rants about highly abstract topics and theories and ideas, or innovating more than “I am supposed to.”
- RAM-bunctious 3y agoI'm not saying your comment is without merit, but regardless of how talented or analytical one is, language use is something of a subconscious process and it takes mental effort to consciously tailor it. Maybe not to the same degree as fixing bad handwriting, but it's the same idea. It also takes emotional regulation to refrain from correcting someone's factual errors. While someone with higher intelligence may be better at understanding and analysing emotions theoretically, this doesn't always translate into practical emotional management skills.
- traverseda 3y ago>If you can't manage the above, Sure, but it can get exhausting over time.
- anonreeeeplor 3y agoI can’t, it requires theory of mind which I don’t have. The concept of a “this person is a This so you talk to them like That.” I don’t have it. Also: I have worked with quantum physicists with multiple degrees from Harvard / Stanford / Yale etc and realized I am in the same room as and same conversations as them. These are the upper .01% of the talent pool and my intelligence has got me to that level. You can’t pull that off by being a complete dumb ass. I have done it over and over and over.