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I think this fits. In an effort to eliminate every possible thing that will cause you discomfort, you end up getting rid of the primary thing which can bring y

I think this fits. In an effort to eliminate every possible thing that will cause you discomfort, you end up getting rid of the primary thing which can bring you joy. I have three kids and it’s a common experience I have with people with no kids that they only ask me about the difficult challenges, lack of sleep, etc… I’ve literally only met a handful of people who asked me about the fun and joy of kids.

bombcar 3y ago
We saw the extreme of this in the British "heyday" for wealthy families; the parents would barely be involved with the children except almost second-hand. Perpetually raised by nannies until handed off to boarding schools. I think everyone will admit there are people who seem to get along with everyone, but people don't want to admit it's a skill that can be learned (mainly through self-change, but also through knowing how to influence conversations and let little things slide) because then it's just another thing they COULD do and don't (like going on a diet).