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Another way that the nuclearization gets reinforced is that learning to get along with people different from us and be comfortable sharing a space with someone
by munificent 3y ago
Another way that the nuclearization gets reinforced is that learning to get along with people different from us and be comfortable sharing a space with someone and making compromises is a skill that must be learned and practice.
But when everyone's living arrangement is atomized and when consumer corporations tell us that we should have every personal whim catered to, we fail to develop that very important life skill and it becomes much harder to live with people than it would be otherwise.
- AndrewKemendo 3y agoI think this fits. In an effort to eliminate every possible thing that will cause you discomfort, you end up getting rid of the primary thing which can bring you joy. I have three kids and it’s a common experience I have with people with no kids that they only ask me about the difficult challenges, lack of sleep, etc… I’ve literally only met a handful of people who asked me about the fun and joy of kids.
- bombcar 3y agoWe saw the extreme of this in the British "heyday" for wealthy families; the parents would barely be involved with the children except almost second-hand. Perpetually raised by nannies until handed off to boarding schools. I think everyone will admit there are people who seem to get along with everyone, but people don't want to admit it's a skill that can be learned (mainly through self-change, but also through knowing how to influence conversations and let little things slide) because then it's just another thing they COULD do and don't (like going on a diet).