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> Despite being so on trend, I don’t feel especially cool living with my mom. And even an hour from sunrise, I’m already exhausted. That's not because you're l

> Despite being so on trend, I don’t feel especially cool living with my mom. And even an hour from sunrise, I’m already exhausted. That's not because you're living with your mom, it's because you're your mom's full-time caretaker - in addition to that of your children. But to echo someone else, this author sure does complain a lot about things like "took over school pick-ups" - your responsibility as a parent - while living in a home their mother spent north of a million bucks on. I mean, it's fine, everyone has the right to complain about things that are bothering them, and it's good that he's complaining outwards [0], but I'm betting a lot of people here are in more difficult situations than he is. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ring_theory_(psychology) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ring_theory_(psychology)

bombcar 3y ago
Someone who is truly happy is likely to be happy in any situation. Someone who is unsatisfied, is likely to be unsatisfied in any situation. You can't fix internal problems with external solutions.
- s1artibartfast 3y ago
  You cant fix internal problems with external solutions, but not all problems are internal. Most are a combination of the two, a miss-match of internal and external conditions. I think there is a lot to be said in favor of stoicism and introspection, but it is not the solution to every problem.
- antisthenes 3y ago
  That doesn't mean that external problems don't exist or that they don't have different orders of magnitude. Not having food in the fridge is a lot different than not being able to afford a house with 4 bedrooms over 3 bedrooms.
  - bombcar 3y ago
    It's unlikely (though possible!) that the person who is sad in the house his mom paid a seven figure downpayment on is going hungry. Though he may have no food in the fridge and instead door dashes everything, I dunno.
- pavel_lishin 3y ago
  But you can sure cause all sorts of unhappiness with external problems.

bombcar 3y ago

Someone who is truly happy is likely to be happy in any situation. Someone who is unsatisfied, is likely to be unsatisfied in any situation. You can't fix internal problems with external solutions.

s1artibartfast 3y ago
You cant fix internal problems with external solutions, but not all problems are internal. Most are a combination of the two, a miss-match of internal and external conditions. I think there is a lot to be said in favor of stoicism and introspection, but it is not the solution to every problem.
antisthenes 3y ago
That doesn't mean that external problems don't exist or that they don't have different orders of magnitude. Not having food in the fridge is a lot different than not being able to afford a house with 4 bedrooms over 3 bedrooms.
- bombcar 3y ago
  It's unlikely (though possible!) that the person who is sad in the house his mom paid a seven figure downpayment on is going hungry. Though he may have no food in the fridge and instead door dashes everything, I dunno.
pavel_lishin 3y ago
But you can sure cause all sorts of unhappiness with external problems.