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>I just love a good argument, to the point where I would provoke people I barely know into arguments about politics, religion, whatever. This right here is the

by omgsean 14y ago

>I just love a good argument, to the point where I would provoke people I barely know into arguments about politics, religion, whatever. This right here is the problem with "embrace your weirdness!" posts. You're not being weird or unique, you're just ignoring social cues and deliberately making people uncomfortable. If your weirdness is that you're super into physics or anime or whatever then that's great, but if your weirdness is that you think you're above learning how to properly socialize with other people then it's not on other people to accept you for it.

niggger 14y ago
Yes, precisely. There is no merit in weirdness for weirdness' sake, and people have limits on what they will tolerate. Ignoring that doesn't make you better or more enlightened than others. People are under no obligation to accept your weirdness out of the box, just because you think they should.
EricDeb 14y ago
Agree. If you've ever seen Curb your Enthusiasm Larry David demonstrates this perfectly. He just always pushes it too far. Being weird is actually totally acceptable if you are confident and respond to basic social cues.
- dkarl 14y ago
  Yep, no need to be a dick about it. You never get anything worthwhile out of people that way anyway. That's my take, anyway. Here's what the real Larry David says about the Larry David he plays on TV: TV Larry is blunt and brutally honest, thriving on confrontational situations, whereas the real Larry avoids them like the plague. He has said before he wishes he was like the character on screen. So, I ask, what stops him? “Somebody would beat me up every day. You can’t be that honest and function in society. These confrontations frighten me so I avoid them and save it up for the show. It’s a little bit of a fantasy.” http://www.ft.com/intl/cms/s/2/f9b4936c-7a53-11e1-9c77-00144feab49a.html#axzz1sy4pAOHm http://www.ft.com/intl/cms/s/2/f9b4936c-7a53-11e1-9c77-00144... Concerns for personal safety aside, whatever purposes such confrontations could serve, stimulation is not among them. Hostility and defensiveness are not educational for either party.

by omgsean 14y ago

niggger 14y ago

Yes, precisely. There is no merit in weirdness for weirdness' sake, and people have limits on what they will tolerate. Ignoring that doesn't make you better or more enlightened than others. People are under no obligation to accept your weirdness out of the box, just because you think they should.

EricDeb 14y ago

Agree. If you've ever seen Curb your Enthusiasm Larry David demonstrates this perfectly. He just always pushes it too far. Being weird is actually totally acceptable if you are confident and respond to basic social cues.

dkarl 14y ago
Yep, no need to be a dick about it. You never get anything worthwhile out of people that way anyway. That's my take, anyway. Here's what the real Larry David says about the Larry David he plays on TV: TV Larry is blunt and brutally honest, thriving on confrontational situations, whereas the real Larry avoids them like the plague. He has said before he wishes he was like the character on screen. So, I ask, what stops him? “Somebody would beat me up every day. You can’t be that honest and function in society. These confrontations frighten me so I avoid them and save it up for the show. It’s a little bit of a fantasy.” http://www.ft.com/intl/cms/s/2/f9b4936c-7a53-11e1-9c77-00144feab49a.html#axzz1sy4pAOHm http://www.ft.com/intl/cms/s/2/f9b4936c-7a53-11e1-9c77-00144... Concerns for personal safety aside, whatever purposes such confrontations could serve, stimulation is not among them. Hostility and defensiveness are not educational for either party.