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I luckily still manage because of height and talking ability, but I have seen the standards change drastically in the last 10 years. Not trying to date from ba

I luckily still manage because of height and talking ability, but I have seen the standards change drastically in the last 10 years. Not trying to date from bars or dance clubs is obvious. Which previously meant men and women would date from work and social circle. Well, now at least half of women are dating exclusively from online dating, and picking out of their league because it's more anonymous. And even girls that don't date online exclusively, tried it a few times and again, landed with guys that would never commit. It's basically poisoning the well.

oliwarner 3y ago
Barely a quarter of women have ever used an app and retention is dire. 50% bounce after the first experience, 10% leave a year for meaningful relationships, and the rest —those that aren't sex workers and bots promoting sex workers— get to fill their boots. This tallies with why apps are a 9:1 sausagefest. And I might suggest that the standards you've seen changing might correlate with your own age and your own shifting standards. If those women are your idea of poison, remind yourself that you're choosing to drink from this tiny minority of self-selecting women. I don't think it's fair to blame them or the well owner for your proclivities.
- talldatethrow 3y ago
  Barely a quarter of women.... Most of which would be already partnered well before the takeoff of these apps. Come on, atleast look up the right age range and right demographic. I found a 2017 (!) study that said 40% of non married people found their current partner online. Now factor in that online dating often leads to shorter term interactions for exactly the reasons I discussed, it's clear that over 50% of 18-35% women have used online dating. I personally have seen the change. When I was young, almost no women did online dating. 20 years later, you would really be hard pressed to find a woman that hasn't tried it. And the reason most stop is because they get burned. That burning leaves a scar, and that's what I mentioned also.

oliwarner 3y ago

Barely a quarter of women have ever used an app and retention is dire. 50% bounce after the first experience, 10% leave a year for meaningful relationships, and the rest —those that aren't sex workers and bots promoting sex workers— get to fill their boots. This tallies with why apps are a 9:1 sausagefest. And I might suggest that the standards you've seen changing might correlate with your own age and your own shifting standards. If those women are your idea of poison, remind yourself that you're choosing to drink from this tiny minority of self-selecting women. I don't think it's fair to blame them or the well owner for your proclivities.

talldatethrow 3y ago
Barely a quarter of women.... Most of which would be already partnered well before the takeoff of these apps. Come on, atleast look up the right age range and right demographic. I found a 2017 (!) study that said 40% of non married people found their current partner online. Now factor in that online dating often leads to shorter term interactions for exactly the reasons I discussed, it's clear that over 50% of 18-35% women have used online dating. I personally have seen the change. When I was young, almost no women did online dating. 20 years later, you would really be hard pressed to find a woman that hasn't tried it. And the reason most stop is because they get burned. That burning leaves a scar, and that's what I mentioned also.