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Life is harsh, sure, but "perfectionism," is a terrible and over-freighted word for someone stuck in a double bind and suffering as the result of it. Consider t
by motohagiography 3y ago
Life is harsh, sure, but "perfectionism," is a terrible and over-freighted word for someone stuck in a double bind and suffering as the result of it. Consider the situations from which someone might acquire a pathological fear of some kinds criticism. A huge likelihood is that as the result of submitting to uncertainty they have been:
- personally abused and shamed
- made the object of sadism or cruelty
- humiliated to their peers
- had important things taken from them
- been isolated
- lost an important relationship
If you know someone suffering from a bind like that, find a way to tell them that "this is not that," and you can have a big impact on their life.
- pessimizer 3y agoI don't understand the purpose of taking a good word "perfectionism" for a pathological fear of criticism and rejection, and replacing it with a random incomplete list of things that might have caused a pathological fear of criticism and rejection.
- motohagiography 3y agoIf you consider what the perfectionism is the effect of, it's easier to unwind than just saying, "oh, you're in a hole, you should stop being in a hole." Describing anything as an 'ism' is a thought terminating judgment of it, and not a meaningful abstraction for it that yields information about what it might be caused by. This article might help your understanding as it talks about what concrete thinking is and how to recognize it: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/theory-and-psychopathology/201407/schizophrenia-and-modes-thought https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/theory-and-psychopat...