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When I was in a band, someone in the group said "Practice is on Tuesday and on Saturday" and we all stuck to it for a few years. Sometimes we'd even get togethe
by leviathant 3y ago
When I was in a band, someone in the group said "Practice is on Tuesday and on Saturday" and we all stuck to it for a few years. Sometimes we'd even get together on a weekday to play a show, where even more people would show up.
It helps to have a reason to get together. At a certain point early in life, I think most people adopt a "no agenda, no attenda" attitude towards socializing.
- ethbr1 3y ago> "no agenda, no attenda" attitude towards socializing As the proverbial people-networking advice goes, "What is the person whose time I'm asking for getting out of meeting? And what can I give them? And how can I make that a win/win?" Folks have an aversion to spending limited time to show up and hope something happens. Better to make the something explicit.
- izzydata 3y agoThat feels sociopathic in the context of socializing. As if you need to have something to gain in order to bother spending time with people.
- ethbr1 3y agoHow often do we plan to spend time without getting something? That might be fun, catching up, sexual attraction, familial obligation, or religious duty... but it's something. Better to be intentional and up-front when asking others, rather than expecting a reason to materialize out of the ether (and them to agree to spend the time without knowing it).