> As far as the concept itself goes, I don't think it's possible to divorce possessiveness from sex. I'm suspicious of people who claim to have conquered jealou

> As far as the concept itself goes, I don't think it's possible to divorce possessiveness from sex. I'm suspicious of people who claim to have conquered jealously. It depends on what you mean by "jealousy", because that term wraps a bunch of disparate ideas, especially given the modern use encompasses envy too. Possessiveness and jealousy are not the same, and jealousy and envy are not the same either. Here's a few different scenarios: 1. My partner sleeps with someone else and this upsets me because I want to sleep with my partner 2. My partner sleeps with someone else and this upsets me because I'm afraid this other person will take my partner 3. My partner sleeps with someone else and this upsets me because I want to sleep with other people 4. My partner sleeps with someone else and this upsets me because I wish I was like the other person All of these scenarios are labelled jealousy, but they're for the most part built from feelings with different motivations. I've been in a long-ish poly relationship since 2015 and since then I've discovered I don't experience jealousy or possessiveness in the classical expression, I'm actually pretty excited when my partners sleep together. Scenario 1 and 2 haven't ever happened for me, I'm either very secure in my feelings around my relationship or that emotional response isn't in my nature. I do experience 3 and 4 but I'd definitely call that a split on envy/FOMO rather than jealousy.