This one is hitting hard for me. He was the male lead in a K-Drama called My Mister. I've watched the entire thing twice. Since I heard this news, I've started

This one is hitting hard for me. He was the male lead in a K-Drama called My Mister. I've watched the entire thing twice. Since I heard this news, I've started my third watching. Few works in TV/movies (or art, really) have effected me as much as My Mister. It's impossible to understand what really happened with Mr. Lee here, but the possibility that the message of My Mister applied to him in this situation, and that he might have missed that message, feels even more tragic to me. My takeaway from My Mister... There might be things in our lives that let us conclude that we do not have value as human beings. But there are often people out there who can see the value in us, even when we can't see it in ourselves. And it's quite possible that their view of us is closer to reality than our own. The reason for that is that they can see the impact we have on them - real, direct evidence of value. When we experience this mismatch between how we view ourselves and how others view us, it's easy to assume that they have some ulterior motive or that they are being overly kind when they tell us of our value. We should do what we can to find who those people are, hear them, and show them the respect of believing they are speaking their own truth about you. It might just save us. This perspective has had a profound impact on me. I've been lucky enough to find a couple of those other people in my life in the last couple of years. In both cases, they were people I cared so much about that I was judging myself as letting them down because I set my bar of support for them impossibly high. Once I truly heard them, I found out I had profoundly affected their lives for the better - something I had been totally blind to. Accepting that was difficult, as it required accepting that I had been completely wrong for a long time. I've also been more forceful in the other direction. I tend to be kind. That leads to people easily dismissing praise from me. But I do not give praise lightly. Being aware of this conflict, I've started looking for when people are dismissing my praise. When I see it, I'll say something like, "Please show me the respect of believing that I know what I'm seeing, I like what I'm seeing, and I'm telling you the truth about it." It often results in them tearing up as they internalize praise they normally wouldn't. Seeing those tears is hard because I know the internal conflict they are going through. But it is also good to know that they are seeing that they might me undervaluing themselves. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/My_Mister https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/My_Mister