Regardless of being in a poly relationship or single or not - men do have to invest much more time into dating and dating-related activities (such as exercising

Regardless of being in a poly relationship or single or not - men do have to invest much more time into dating and dating-related activities (such as exercising and diet to achieve a great physique, grooming, and dress) to get anywhere near the results that women will. Even then, 90%+ of men with great effort will never achieve the results that 50%+ of women will get with little to no effort. There’s a vast chasm between male and female experience that will never be bridged. If you’re with an even remotely attractive woman and you’re not top 1% yourself, you will feel like a cuckold in comparison when opening up a relationship to polyamory. (Assuming she has significant interest in exploring) Most men are quite clueless - especially if they’ve been off the dating market since their early 20’s and haven’t been observing closely how dating has changed in the last couple decades.