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Why is giving up better? What’s the harm in being wrong about fixing your own issues? All I can see is wasted time and effort, but as a person with a lifelong

Why is giving up better? What’s the harm in being wrong about fixing your own issues? All I can see is wasted time and effort, but as a person with a lifelong (supposedly) incurable illness, it’s time well spent. I’d rather struggle and fail than accept my fate.

nhinck3 3y ago
It promotes a kind of magical thinking which spreads and leads people down the path that fruit will cure their cancer.
- dudifndks 3y ago
  Sure, that can happen. The grandparent is promoting a kind of magical on the other end - that no cure is possible so you should just give up. I think it’s healthier on a personal and societal level if we try and fail instead of quit. Worst case we learn what doesn’t work.
  - stvltvs 3y ago
    To clarify, accepting that no answers might be available frees up our energy to focus on what we can do rather than trying out every dubious or fraudulent claim that could do us real harm. This is coming from someone facing a life-threatening illness. I hear lots of shit advice all the time. I've chosen to separate myself from support groups that circulate dangerous ideas, and I think I'm better off.
    - Sirizarry 3y ago
      I do hope you get better and advising against ignorant support groups spreading misinformation is good, but it’s also stupid as all hell to suggest to others that they give up. Accepting that there are no answers is the same as lying down to die. There is always an answer and even if you or I won’t find it, the group pursuit for truth is a positive thing
      - stvltvs 3y ago
        Thank you sincerely for the concern. The alternative isn't giving up. It's doing what we can with what we actually know based on science-based medicine. That might include seeking a second, third, etc. credible opinion. Unfortunately, there isn't always an answer. Countless people suffer from conditions that no one understands.
xtian 3y ago
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vlovich123 3y ago
Best case it’s wasted time, effort and money which all can have an emotional/stress toll as things don’t work. Worst case is you try something that makes things even worse. Both can be pretty bad.
- chillingeffect 3y ago
  Queen sized static mat: Max $200 and 60 minutes for all review-reading. ordering, unboxing, installation. Possible outcome: healing, better sleep, reduced pain. Reward/risk ratio is great here.

nhinck3 3y ago

It promotes a kind of magical thinking which spreads and leads people down the path that fruit will cure their cancer.

dudifndks 3y ago
Sure, that can happen. The grandparent is promoting a kind of magical on the other end - that no cure is possible so you should just give up. I think it’s healthier on a personal and societal level if we try and fail instead of quit. Worst case we learn what doesn’t work.
- stvltvs 3y ago
  To clarify, accepting that no answers might be available frees up our energy to focus on what we can do rather than trying out every dubious or fraudulent claim that could do us real harm. This is coming from someone facing a life-threatening illness. I hear lots of shit advice all the time. I've chosen to separate myself from support groups that circulate dangerous ideas, and I think I'm better off.
  - Sirizarry 3y ago
    I do hope you get better and advising against ignorant support groups spreading misinformation is good, but it’s also stupid as all hell to suggest to others that they give up. Accepting that there are no answers is the same as lying down to die. There is always an answer and even if you or I won’t find it, the group pursuit for truth is a positive thing
    - stvltvs 3y ago
      Thank you sincerely for the concern. The alternative isn't giving up. It's doing what we can with what we actually know based on science-based medicine. That might include seeking a second, third, etc. credible opinion. Unfortunately, there isn't always an answer. Countless people suffer from conditions that no one understands.

xtian 3y ago

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vlovich123 3y ago

Best case it’s wasted time, effort and money which all can have an emotional/stress toll as things don’t work. Worst case is you try something that makes things even worse. Both can be pretty bad.

chillingeffect 3y ago
Queen sized static mat: Max $200 and 60 minutes for all review-reading. ordering, unboxing, installation. Possible outcome: healing, better sleep, reduced pain. Reward/risk ratio is great here.