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I know one person who tried this and in their experience it's something that's gender-unbalanced. That is, as an average male, you need to invest much more work

I know one person who tried this and in their experience it's something that's gender-unbalanced. That is, as an average male, you need to invest much more work to enjoy the same level of connectivity when compared to an average female. This might be related to the fact that still after so many decades of sexual freedom males are still expected to be the initiating side, by and large. Another difficult aspect is that apart of your "main" partner, your "secondary" ones either need to accept that you already have a partner, hence also be open to polyamory, or you have to lie to them, which is definitely not a game for everybody. Overall, seeing all this, I wouldn't recommend it unless you have your emotions like jealousy well under control.

bradlys 3y ago
Regardless of being in a poly relationship or single or not - men do have to invest much more time into dating and dating-related activities (such as exercising and diet to achieve a great physique, grooming, and dress) to get anywhere near the results that women will. Even then, 90%+ of men with great effort will never achieve the results that 50%+ of women will get with little to no effort. There’s a vast chasm between male and female experience that will never be bridged. If you’re with an even remotely attractive woman and you’re not top 1% yourself, you will feel like a cuckold in comparison when opening up a relationship to polyamory. (Assuming she has significant interest in exploring) Most men are quite clueless - especially if they’ve been off the dating market since their early 20’s and haven’t been observing closely how dating has changed in the last couple decades.