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Polyamory will never become popular. I'm not going to judge anybody for what they do in the privacy of their own bedroom, but I will say that very few people ar

Polyamory will never become popular. I'm not going to judge anybody for what they do in the privacy of their own bedroom, but I will say that very few people are going to be okay with their partner having sex with other people, and you need at least 3 such people for a polyamorous relationship. Also, maintaining a normal relationship is hard, and the number of relationships between 2 members within a polyamorous relationship increases quadratically as the number of members increase linearly. If even one of those inter-relationships go sour, I imagine that it could lead to serious consequences for the entire poly relationship. Again, good for you to any poly people reading this that happened to make it work, but the odds are stacked against poly relationships.

voidwtf 3y ago
You're operating under the incorrect assumption that a polyamorous relationship links all partners involved directly. I believe it's more common in polyamorous relationships that each individual in the relationship has their own partner(s). For instance A has partners B and C, but B and C are aware of each other but not interested in being partners. B and C may also have their own individual partner(s), and so on. I believe it's a less common occurrence that all partners are partnered with one-another. (One example of that might be a "thruple")
- rokkitmensch 3y ago
  "kitchen-table" polyamory is somewhat less frequent, although difficult to negotiate away if folks have kids in the picture.
  - voidwtf 3y ago
    "kitchen-table" polyamory does not imply that partner(s) are intimately involved with one-another. Just that they can amicably share the same space at times, whether that be a birthday party, a friendly dinner, or board game night. Personally I would hope that any partner(s) feel comfortable speaking to one another and being in the same space if the situation merits it, but it's not for everyone.
    - rokkitmensch 3y ago
      I didn't read "intimately" in GP, but sure. Good luck partnering with a member of a family without getting embroiled to one degree or another with kids and the other partner though (but maybe this gets better after the kids are older than mine? Time will tell...).
      - voidwtf 3y ago
        I think if you raise your kids to be aware of different relationship styles and types, that being in a polyamorous relationship would be no different than dating as a single or divorced parent. You're not going to overshare with your children in either situation and your partner is not going to have a parental relationship with your children.

voidwtf 3y ago

You're operating under the incorrect assumption that a polyamorous relationship links all partners involved directly. I believe it's more common in polyamorous relationships that each individual in the relationship has their own partner(s). For instance A has partners B and C, but B and C are aware of each other but not interested in being partners. B and C may also have their own individual partner(s), and so on. I believe it's a less common occurrence that all partners are partnered with one-another. (One example of that might be a "thruple")

rokkitmensch 3y ago
"kitchen-table" polyamory is somewhat less frequent, although difficult to negotiate away if folks have kids in the picture.
- voidwtf 3y ago
  "kitchen-table" polyamory does not imply that partner(s) are intimately involved with one-another. Just that they can amicably share the same space at times, whether that be a birthday party, a friendly dinner, or board game night. Personally I would hope that any partner(s) feel comfortable speaking to one another and being in the same space if the situation merits it, but it's not for everyone.
  - rokkitmensch 3y ago
    I didn't read "intimately" in GP, but sure. Good luck partnering with a member of a family without getting embroiled to one degree or another with kids and the other partner though (but maybe this gets better after the kids are older than mine? Time will tell...).
    - voidwtf 3y ago
      I think if you raise your kids to be aware of different relationship styles and types, that being in a polyamorous relationship would be no different than dating as a single or divorced parent. You're not going to overshare with your children in either situation and your partner is not going to have a parental relationship with your children.