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I agree - it doesn't seem popular at all. I do know a couple of people who are poly. I am disappointed there were not better stats in the article. So about 50%

I agree - it doesn't seem popular at all. I do know a couple of people who are poly. I am disappointed there were not better stats in the article. So about 50% say open marriages are acceptable, and about 20% say they've experimented with non-monogamy. But how many are actually in a poly relationship? How does that compare to the past? They list a lot of movie references to poly relations, but what does that have to do with anything? Is it popular for people to become John Wick, Rambo, etc in real life? I think not. Perhaps they enjoy the idea of being a bad ass, vigilante, etc and watching those movies, but many people understand the downsides and that some fantasies should stay fantasies. The same thing for how many things in porn are great as a fantasy, but not things that the person wants to do in real life. There are many similarities to fantastical ideas that many have of non-monogamus relationships.

voidwtf 3y ago
I think it would have been more accurate to say that ethical non-monogamy (ENM) has become more popular. The only statistics I've seen seem to support that conclusion. I've not seen any statistics that seem to indicate polyamory specifically is dominating that trend though.
- giantg2 3y ago
  Can you provide those? A search only shows about 4-5% currently involved, but nothing about that value over time.
  - voidwtf 3y ago
    Unfortunately the data seems to be limited, and quite poor, at this time. I'm guessing this probably stems both from under reporting due to societal stigmas and due to a lack of research. However, I found the following meta-analysis that appears to indicate an increase in interest over the past decade and a half. You may be able to access these articles through you're local library for free, or if you have a subscription. I do not have a subscription at this time so I'm unable to retrieve the full details. I previously looked into this topic in 2011 when I was still a psych undergrad, there appears to be more research since then. https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fcfp0000074 https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fcfp0000074 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0092623X.2016.1178675 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0092623X.2016.1... https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X22001890 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X2... A survey from YouGov in 2016 and again in 2020 appears to indicate non-monogamy is a growing preference among millennials. https://today.yougov.com/society/articles/27639-millennials-monogamy-poly-poll-survey-data https://today.yougov.com/society/articles/27639-millennials-...
    - giantg2 3y ago
      Personally, I'd agree that the idea or interest in it is more common or more openly discussed today. I'm just really curious how some of the trends compare through different parts of history (free love, less puritanical countries, or bigomy, etc). I would guess prior data would be even more biased by cultural stigma.

voidwtf 3y ago

I think it would have been more accurate to say that ethical non-monogamy (ENM) has become more popular. The only statistics I've seen seem to support that conclusion. I've not seen any statistics that seem to indicate polyamory specifically is dominating that trend though.

giantg2 3y ago
Can you provide those? A search only shows about 4-5% currently involved, but nothing about that value over time.
- voidwtf 3y ago
  Unfortunately the data seems to be limited, and quite poor, at this time. I'm guessing this probably stems both from under reporting due to societal stigmas and due to a lack of research. However, I found the following meta-analysis that appears to indicate an increase in interest over the past decade and a half. You may be able to access these articles through you're local library for free, or if you have a subscription. I do not have a subscription at this time so I'm unable to retrieve the full details. I previously looked into this topic in 2011 when I was still a psych undergrad, there appears to be more research since then. https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fcfp0000074 https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fcfp0000074 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0092623X.2016.1178675 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0092623X.2016.1... https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X22001890 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X2... A survey from YouGov in 2016 and again in 2020 appears to indicate non-monogamy is a growing preference among millennials. https://today.yougov.com/society/articles/27639-millennials-monogamy-poly-poll-survey-data https://today.yougov.com/society/articles/27639-millennials-...
  - giantg2 3y ago
    Personally, I'd agree that the idea or interest in it is more common or more openly discussed today. I'm just really curious how some of the trends compare through different parts of history (free love, less puritanical countries, or bigomy, etc). I would guess prior data would be even more biased by cultural stigma.