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This has been an awful year for me. Unable to find work, having to sell off important assets. And for some reason iOS autocorrect is still terrible. Here's to

by geuis 3y ago

This has been an awful year for me. Unable to find work, having to sell off important assets. And for some reason iOS autocorrect is still terrible. Here's to hoping next year will be better.

_sjzq 3y ago
I can't hire you, but I'm in a similar boat. I'm lucky to have a client I'm billing, but other than that the job search has sucked. I can code, and also have product/g2m experience. Happy to collaborate remotely. Want to try to build something together? If interested you can reach me through metaluna.io.
switch007 3y ago
Fingers crossed for next year And totally with you on iOS autocorrect!
sillysaurusx 3y ago
Things can turn around. In 2016 I felt the same way as you. It was the nadir of my life, and was interspersed with suicidal thoughts. We barely kept our Chicago apartment. Don’t give up hope, and keep trying. Also, one key for me was to get properly medicated. Prozac was a turning point, but everyone is different. There was a clear step function from "before Prozac" to "after Prozac". The suicidal ideation stopped, among other things, which let me get my life in order. Mostly just remember to enjoy each day in small ways. The only thing I regret from 2016 is not taking the time to appreciate the small things. There’s an interesting mental exercise to snap you out of this: pretend you’re on your death bed at 80, and then you were magically transported back in time to the present day. What would you do? Even being able to run is a blessing I don’t remember to appreciate until I can’t. You’ll figure it out. Or at least, the chances of you figuring things out is much higher than things going downhill forever. It’s the default path, even if it doesn’t feel like it when things are going wrong.
- susiecambria 3y ago
  Glad you are better. I've suffered from depression since I was in elementary school and medicated since 1995-ish. Meds have changed over time but overall life after is ever so much better than life before. Major life change happened recently (mom aging mom moved in with me, husband, and dogs) and my saving grace is creating, quilts mostly. I'm reallllly leaning into sewing at 4am! I appreciate your perspective. Thanks for sharing.
  - sillysaurusx 3y ago
    That’s cool. I wish I’d learned to make quilts, or to draw. If you happen to have any photos of things you’ve made (or your doggos), I’d love to see. Have a wonderful holiday week.
- appel 3y ago
  > There’s an interesting mental exercise to snap you out of this: pretend you’re on your death bed at 80, and then you were magically transported back in time to the present day. I do this, occasionally. Didn't realize this was a thing other people do, too. For some reason it really works in terms of making me feel more appreciative for my health and the many years I (hopefully) have left to live my life.
Uptrenda 3y ago
I've been there. The biggest struggle I had was with the constant self-doubts and cynicism. Just when you need the most motivation it seems that everything is against you. All I can say is it's normal to feel like trash during the job search and sometimes things aren't as bad as they seem. It can obviously be hard to believe that after spending like 6 - 12 months unemployed but its true. You're not any more or less as a person. The economy is just brutal at the moment.
layer8 3y ago
At least one can just turn off iOS autocorrect, if it's more terrible than one's typing ability (which it typically is).
JelteF 3y ago
SwiftKey is still the only keyboard with an autocorrect that's actually really helpful, instead of actively messing up what I'm writing. But only if you (counterintuitively) turn off the "autocorrect" checkbox in the settings. Because then you will always have 3 distinct options to choose from (instead of middle and left sometimes being the same). Apparently you can install SwiftKey on iOS too (although I've never tried it).
- airstrike 3y ago
  confirming SwiftKey works brilliantly on iOS. have been a user since before it got acquired, then abandoned, and then picked up again It also lets you pick more than one language at the same time, which is amazingly useful (sadly "more than one" is strictly 2, but 3-4 would be even better)
tmountain 3y ago
I hope things turn around for you. Here are two sayings that I lean on when times are tough: “Keep your highs low and your lows high.” “When you’re going through hell, keep going.”
scrapcode 3y ago
This, too, shall pass. Finding a calming peace and disconnect from material things in a low period of my life has stuck with me even as things have gotten much better. Not to say I know what you need, but I bet the positives will shine through all of this in the long term. Find a way to smile today - Merry Christmas / Happy Holidays!
spacedcowboy 3y ago
Take heart. My wife almost died early this year from a hospital deciding to rush her Sodium level restoration because beds were scarce and profitable. She now suffers from extreme anxiety, her previous life as a happy, well-balanced mom is over, and as I write, she’s in the next room chattering in nonsense to herself because it’s how her brain copes. It’s worse in the mornings, gets better, briefly, in the afternoons as she gains more higher-level function, until her loss and grief for that overwhelm her, and she reverts again. I won’t go into the litany of pain and suffering she continues to go through, suffice it to say she has had a variety of terrible-to-observe, worse to endure, symptoms throughout the year. Screaming in agony for hours, in first or third person, in hospital or at home, when painkillers just don’t work is not an experience anyone should go through. The highlight of today is that a friend has invited us around for an Xmas meal. It’ll be our first social engagement since it happened, so there’s some risk. It’s at 4pm, which is usually her best time of the day, so we’re hopeful things can play out “normally”. I guess we’ll see, sometimes you have to risk things, just to make progress. I don’t think my friend actually realises just how much it means to us what his family have done, but I am so grateful that I cried on getting the invite. It can be hard to struggle alone. So again, take heart. There is always something worse that could have happened, even for us. Don’t let the past dictate the future - you can’t change the past, but you can influence the future. And I will join you in hoping that next year will be better. [edit: thank you all for the kind wishes. Xmas has been hard so far because the sense of loss she feels is so much stronger than normal, but we live in hope]
- Utkarsh_Mood 3y ago
  Praying next year is better for you and your family
- granshaw 3y ago
  That sounds awful, I’m so sorry to hear that and do hope that she can make progress. If I may, this is a point I’ve been thinking a lot of lately though - as in, is the “oh there’s many people out there who have it way worse, so be thankful for what you have” mindset actually healthy? Of course there will always be others worse off… and the inverse advice is also widely accepted: “never be the smartest person in the room”, “always look up, not down, to grow”, etc I’ve been processing this in the context that I’m on the cusp of needing to give up on some life dreams, at least for a long while. I’m glad to be shut down if this isn’t the right place for this discussion
m463 3y ago
I found great peace when I turned off auto-capitalization and auto-correction in the keyboard menu. also smart punctuation, especially in macos.

by geuis 3y ago

This has been an awful year for me. Unable to find work, having to sell off important assets. And for some reason iOS autocorrect is still terrible. Here's to hoping next year will be better.

_sjzq 3y ago

I can't hire you, but I'm in a similar boat. I'm lucky to have a client I'm billing, but other than that the job search has sucked. I can code, and also have product/g2m experience. Happy to collaborate remotely. Want to try to build something together? If interested you can reach me through metaluna.io.

switch007 3y ago

Fingers crossed for next year And totally with you on iOS autocorrect!

sillysaurusx 3y ago

Things can turn around. In 2016 I felt the same way as you. It was the nadir of my life, and was interspersed with suicidal thoughts. We barely kept our Chicago apartment. Don’t give up hope, and keep trying. Also, one key for me was to get properly medicated. Prozac was a turning point, but everyone is different. There was a clear step function from "before Prozac" to "after Prozac". The suicidal ideation stopped, among other things, which let me get my life in order. Mostly just remember to enjoy each day in small ways. The only thing I regret from 2016 is not taking the time to appreciate the small things. There’s an interesting mental exercise to snap you out of this: pretend you’re on your death bed at 80, and then you were magically transported back in time to the present day. What would you do? Even being able to run is a blessing I don’t remember to appreciate until I can’t. You’ll figure it out. Or at least, the chances of you figuring things out is much higher than things going downhill forever. It’s the default path, even if it doesn’t feel like it when things are going wrong.

susiecambria 3y ago
Glad you are better. I've suffered from depression since I was in elementary school and medicated since 1995-ish. Meds have changed over time but overall life after is ever so much better than life before. Major life change happened recently (mom aging mom moved in with me, husband, and dogs) and my saving grace is creating, quilts mostly. I'm reallllly leaning into sewing at 4am! I appreciate your perspective. Thanks for sharing.
- sillysaurusx 3y ago
  That’s cool. I wish I’d learned to make quilts, or to draw. If you happen to have any photos of things you’ve made (or your doggos), I’d love to see. Have a wonderful holiday week.
appel 3y ago
> There’s an interesting mental exercise to snap you out of this: pretend you’re on your death bed at 80, and then you were magically transported back in time to the present day. I do this, occasionally. Didn't realize this was a thing other people do, too. For some reason it really works in terms of making me feel more appreciative for my health and the many years I (hopefully) have left to live my life.

Uptrenda 3y ago

I've been there. The biggest struggle I had was with the constant self-doubts and cynicism. Just when you need the most motivation it seems that everything is against you. All I can say is it's normal to feel like trash during the job search and sometimes things aren't as bad as they seem. It can obviously be hard to believe that after spending like 6 - 12 months unemployed but its true. You're not any more or less as a person. The economy is just brutal at the moment.

layer8 3y ago

At least one can just turn off iOS autocorrect, if it's more terrible than one's typing ability (which it typically is).

JelteF 3y ago

SwiftKey is still the only keyboard with an autocorrect that's actually really helpful, instead of actively messing up what I'm writing. But only if you (counterintuitively) turn off the "autocorrect" checkbox in the settings. Because then you will always have 3 distinct options to choose from (instead of middle and left sometimes being the same). Apparently you can install SwiftKey on iOS too (although I've never tried it).

airstrike 3y ago
confirming SwiftKey works brilliantly on iOS. have been a user since before it got acquired, then abandoned, and then picked up again It also lets you pick more than one language at the same time, which is amazingly useful (sadly "more than one" is strictly 2, but 3-4 would be even better)

tmountain 3y ago

I hope things turn around for you. Here are two sayings that I lean on when times are tough: “Keep your highs low and your lows high.” “When you’re going through hell, keep going.”

scrapcode 3y ago

This, too, shall pass. Finding a calming peace and disconnect from material things in a low period of my life has stuck with me even as things have gotten much better. Not to say I know what you need, but I bet the positives will shine through all of this in the long term. Find a way to smile today - Merry Christmas / Happy Holidays!

spacedcowboy 3y ago

Take heart. My wife almost died early this year from a hospital deciding to rush her Sodium level restoration because beds were scarce and profitable. She now suffers from extreme anxiety, her previous life as a happy, well-balanced mom is over, and as I write, she’s in the next room chattering in nonsense to herself because it’s how her brain copes. It’s worse in the mornings, gets better, briefly, in the afternoons as she gains more higher-level function, until her loss and grief for that overwhelm her, and she reverts again. I won’t go into the litany of pain and suffering she continues to go through, suffice it to say she has had a variety of terrible-to-observe, worse to endure, symptoms throughout the year. Screaming in agony for hours, in first or third person, in hospital or at home, when painkillers just don’t work is not an experience anyone should go through. The highlight of today is that a friend has invited us around for an Xmas meal. It’ll be our first social engagement since it happened, so there’s some risk. It’s at 4pm, which is usually her best time of the day, so we’re hopeful things can play out “normally”. I guess we’ll see, sometimes you have to risk things, just to make progress. I don’t think my friend actually realises just how much it means to us what his family have done, but I am so grateful that I cried on getting the invite. It can be hard to struggle alone. So again, take heart. There is always something worse that could have happened, even for us. Don’t let the past dictate the future - you can’t change the past, but you can influence the future. And I will join you in hoping that next year will be better. [edit: thank you all for the kind wishes. Xmas has been hard so far because the sense of loss she feels is so much stronger than normal, but we live in hope]

Utkarsh_Mood 3y ago
Praying next year is better for you and your family
granshaw 3y ago
That sounds awful, I’m so sorry to hear that and do hope that she can make progress. If I may, this is a point I’ve been thinking a lot of lately though - as in, is the “oh there’s many people out there who have it way worse, so be thankful for what you have” mindset actually healthy? Of course there will always be others worse off… and the inverse advice is also widely accepted: “never be the smartest person in the room”, “always look up, not down, to grow”, etc I’ve been processing this in the context that I’m on the cusp of needing to give up on some life dreams, at least for a long while. I’m glad to be shut down if this isn’t the right place for this discussion

m463 3y ago

I found great peace when I turned off auto-capitalization and auto-correction in the keyboard menu. also smart punctuation, especially in macos.