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I’m impressed this guy has time to write. My wife and I raised four children. My wife was blessed to be able to be a “stay at home” mom during the early period
by travisgriggs 3y ago
I’m impressed this guy has time to write.
My wife and I raised four children. My wife was blessed to be able to be a “stay at home” mom during the early period. It was a lot of work. I often joke that after the first two weeks of our oldest, I had no recollection of what the first two years of marriage had been like. The child rearing experience is just so all consuming.
Four years ago, that oldest child got pregnant. And then discovered it was twins. We made plans to be there and help like is often the case. Holy crap. Two infants is so much more work than one. It doesn’t double the work load. It compounds geometrically. I think my wife spent the first three months there.
So, yeah, I’m impressed this guy has time to write. Next time you meet someone with twins, give them some cred for making it through the first few months. It is an astronomical effort.
- kqr 3y agoI agree. Children gave me a lot more time to read, surprisingly, but I have hands that are way too busy to write as much as I would like to.
- Auracle 3y agoWhen does that come? I’m the father of a (very) active 2 year old with another on the way. “Come on daddy, let’s play” is a refrain I hear probably 50 times a day.
- kqr 3y agoMainly in the first year, to be fair. My children would only sleep with active assistance (stroller, in my arms as I walk around) so I spent many hours walking and had an e-reader with me for that. Now at 2 and 4 I have the same experience ad you. I hear it gets better!
- reducesuffering 3y agoHe's told us how in a previous post. "On the other hand, I know people who want to get good at writing, and make a mighty resolution to write two hundred words a day every day, and then after the first week they find it’s too annoying and give up. These people think I’m amazing, and why shouldn’t they? I’ve written a few hundred to a few thousand words pretty much every day for the past ten years. But as I’ve said before, this has taken exactly zero willpower. It’s more that I can’t stop even if I want to. Part of that is probably that when I write, I feel really good about having expressed exactly what it was I meant to say. Lots of people read it, they comment, they praise me, I feel good, I’m encouraged to keep writing, and it’s exactly the same virtuous cycle as my brother got from his piano practice." https://slatestarcodex.com/2015/01/31/the-parable-of-the-talents/ https://slatestarcodex.com/2015/01/31/the-parable-of-the-tal...