>why someone actually intends to have 3-5 children in modern times when we're not working on a farm or in the mines. Mine write great boilerplate code - better

>why someone actually intends to have 3-5 children in modern times when we're not working on a farm or in the mines. Mine write great boilerplate code - better than GPT by a good margin, anyway. Also, they're a more reliable retirement option than the state, if you have enough of them. Just kidding, but seriously, having kids opens up a form and depth of love that is otherwise difficult to access. It's sort of like romance - why do people care so much about sex and romantic intimacy? I believe we live in a time of love poverty. Compared to people in the past, who grew up surrounded by many siblings, and two parents, and extended family, and friends, and then lovers, and a lifelong spouse, and many children, and grandchildren, and so on - think of how wealthy in love is such a person. The love of God that fills all suchness with a certain hefty presence, like a thick blanket atop reality. Like a baby knowing his parent is there while he plays. Not to romanticize the past - but I believe a modernity with such love was possible. It's still within grasp. On the other hand, DINK life does seem really awesome in its own way. I guess for me, both paths lead to a very cool kind of wealth, and I understand the merits of both ways. I'm lucky I have a beautiful lovely kind wife and sweet, playful children who fall asleep easily lol.