The line you’re drawing is arbitrary. It is clear to all that getting drunk, ever, lowers your security. You can couchsurf five hundred times and have nothing l

The line you’re drawing is arbitrary. It is clear to all that getting drunk, ever, lowers your security. You can couchsurf five hundred times and have nothing like this happen. You can get drunk at strange bars day in and day out and have nothing like this happen. You can be walking from a bus stop to your cheap motel a bit too tired or take a jog too early in the morning and be victimized in much the same way. We can ensure our safety, or we can live our lives and experience the world. Perspectives that jump instantly to what a victim could have done better to improve their safety are reasonable, especially when discussing prevention, but you might learn something about the very common angle of these perspectives if you consider other situations re: personal security where you don’t immediately ump to what the victim could have done. My observation is you get a LOT more of the “oh you silly thing, how could you have not known this would happen to you?” When dealing with female victims of sex crimes.