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Either one, doesn't really matter, and it is up to the parents. Although, not sure if you know this, but fathers can't breastfeed, no matter what you read on Tw

by brvsft 3y ago

Either one, doesn't really matter, and it is up to the parents. Although, not sure if you know this, but fathers can't breastfeed, no matter what you read on Twitter. It affects your options for the early years.

igetspam 3y ago
Hahaha. As a parent and regular human, I'm fully aware of who can breastfeed. I assume my point was clear though. We need to stop putting all of this on women. Yes there are certain biology issues that require women to take some outsized roles in child development but those aren't permanent and telling women that they should stay home with the kids is usually not aligned with "until they're off the breast and then the father can stay home instead." Thankfully modern science has invented and improved the breast pump and the bottle warmer and after recovery, women don't actually need to stay home for kids to get breast milk. So there's really no need to be gender specific about which parent should stay home, past reasonable maternity/paternity leave periods. On the other hand, being single income is a luxury that not everyone can afford anyway. Our living costs have skyrocketed since 2020 and both parents working is necessity for lower and middle income families, in many cases. Even if the second income covers little more than child care, that "little more" is meaningful to people. If we want better families, we should provide ways for lowering the burden and not force women (her it's women because nothing grows in or comes out of men) to have kids they can't care for and/or don't want and find ways to make childcare more affordable.
triceratops 3y ago
Not sure if you know this, but it's possible to pump and refrigerate breast milk. And even freeze it. Most developed countries have at least 3 months of maternity leave, and most children start weaning after a year or so. Which means 25% of that time is covered by mom anyway.
midasuni 3y ago
Most kids are weaned before the end of maternity leave at about 10-12 months so that’s fairly irrelevant.
- igetspam 3y ago
  You're not American, are you? Maternity leave is not a year here. There's a 12 but it's "weeks" and never months. That's the law I'm the very liberal states.

by brvsft 3y ago

igetspam 3y ago

Hahaha. As a parent and regular human, I'm fully aware of who can breastfeed. I assume my point was clear though. We need to stop putting all of this on women. Yes there are certain biology issues that require women to take some outsized roles in child development but those aren't permanent and telling women that they should stay home with the kids is usually not aligned with "until they're off the breast and then the father can stay home instead." Thankfully modern science has invented and improved the breast pump and the bottle warmer and after recovery, women don't actually need to stay home for kids to get breast milk. So there's really no need to be gender specific about which parent should stay home, past reasonable maternity/paternity leave periods. On the other hand, being single income is a luxury that not everyone can afford anyway. Our living costs have skyrocketed since 2020 and both parents working is necessity for lower and middle income families, in many cases. Even if the second income covers little more than child care, that "little more" is meaningful to people. If we want better families, we should provide ways for lowering the burden and not force women (her it's women because nothing grows in or comes out of men) to have kids they can't care for and/or don't want and find ways to make childcare more affordable.

triceratops 3y ago

Not sure if you know this, but it's possible to pump and refrigerate breast milk. And even freeze it. Most developed countries have at least 3 months of maternity leave, and most children start weaning after a year or so. Which means 25% of that time is covered by mom anyway.

midasuni 3y ago

Most kids are weaned before the end of maternity leave at about 10-12 months so that’s fairly irrelevant.

igetspam 3y ago
You're not American, are you? Maternity leave is not a year here. There's a 12 but it's "weeks" and never months. That's the law I'm the very liberal states.