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> It also made it clear to the other people in the house that daddy is now serious, and that even just a simple "hi, how are you" would require me to get up, le
by tzs 3y ago
> It also made it clear to the other people in the house that daddy is now serious, and that even just a simple "hi, how are you" would require me to get up, leave, and return to answer. And then leave and return to go back to work. The social friction was important.
Suppose someone else went out the door, walked back in, and went to your work area. Were they then considered to be in the work area and so could talk with you without you having to leave and come back?
- gonzo41 3y agoThis reminds me of first learning VI. What context am I in!!!!!
- dotancohen 3y agoI would go along with it - this is my family after all and I encourage creativity. But depending on the interruption, they might hear an answer that rings closely with "that can wait until I get home" or "don't hit her back, but try to resolve it between yourselves".
- mbreese 3y agoYou need two hats. A work hat and family hat. This is the only possible social cue that will work in the long term. I would completely expect my family to get behind this. I've worked remotely for many years now so my kids were (in theory) well trained to not bother me while I'm working. However, that started to get more lax post-covid. I also used to specifically work late at night and in the morning while they were at school. As they get older and stay up later, it has gotten more difficult to keep that schedule. I recently moved my office to our third floor space. I'm hoping the extra work required to go up a flight of stairs will limit spontaneous interruptions during the day. I'm hopeful, but don't expect it to work long term. Maybe I need hats...
- hurflmurfl 3y agoI feel like this only makes sense in the US. As a non-US person, I still find it weird when people show up on video calls wearing hats (e.g. caps) at home.
- verve_rat 3y agoWhat about an "On Air" light instead of the hat?
- _old_dude_ 3y agoI'm now retired but headphones were my invibility hat. I was easy for the kids, headphones means daddy is not home, it was harder for my wife.
- stavros 3y agoThis is what I've wanted to have outside my office for a very long time.
- dotancohen 3y ago> You need two hats. A work hat and family hat. That is a terrific idea and I'll try it if I'm back in the situation again. Thank you! The neighbors will just have to get used to seeing me step outside occasionally to swap hats.