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Interesting points. And, I've not yet decided what I'm going to do as a parent yet. The discussion you guys are having here is kind of what's going on in my hea
by johndunne 3y ago
Interesting points. And, I've not yet decided what I'm going to do as a parent yet. The discussion you guys are having here is kind of what's going on in my head right now and over the last few months :D The general direction I think is best for any parent is to leave them to make their own mistakes and educate them, knowing that they can come to me and have frank conversations. The first time I watched any porn was at 13 when one of my mates found his Dad's stash. And I turned out... normal ;-) There was no accessible internet back then, unfortunately.
- ethbr1 3y agoIt's always the parent-head discussion! Because both sides are "right." But I do think too much of either side is wrong. Kids of the pre-digital generation certainly turned out okay, broadly speaking. And we certainly had far more freedom than kids nowadays (e.g. "I'll be hanging out with {friend}, call me at their house. I'll be home for dinner!"). But... it's also true that some modern evils weren't possible. Pedophiles couldn't groom us from across the country. Information came from the library or people. Communities were smaller and looked out for each other. The one thing I'd be pretty resolute on -- establish some form of "you don't get to always have your device" up front. Whether that's homework time, or sleep time, or whenever. And be hard-nosed about it: no exceptions. Otherwise "you always have your device" expectations set in, which coupled with stickiness of modern apps and peer pressure, means it's World War 3 trying to part them from it. But if "no phone o'clock" has always been a thing... everything runs smoother.