I don't learn as much about commenters over time as I'd like to. I'd like to know comments on the page are from people I have consistently good or consistently

I don't learn as much about commenters over time as I'd like to. I'd like to know comments on the page are from people I have consistently good or consistently bad experiences with. (Diving in some, this is explicitly less about total votes for a person (which is biased by who posts the most) and is more about specific moments where I see something really brilliant and striking or something really bitter and crass.) I'd also like forgiveness. I get rate limited for some perceived incivility & that's it, years down the road I'm still rate limited. Only the bad things weigh against us. I got told on a previous account there were warnings against me (mainly for defending the web against some really nasty mean people, trying to keep some spark akindle, imo), but 2 out of 3 had been 4+ years ago. And I still felt wronged by the warnings in the first place, that I was fighting monstrous cruel negativity, trying to allow some good in. It feels absurd that the bad is allowed to keep adding up forever but the good counts for nothing; we need some forces beyond just the fall to move us.