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I am trying to figure why I have a problem relating? Maybe I am just wired in the wrong way. But maybe it is only after the "we" that you figure out what you

• fifilura 3y ago
  I just don't think that it is always a good advice to a young person to (admittedly paraphrasing) "not seek friends for the sake of seeking friends, only do things you love" You might just end up lonely in a room wondering what in the world it is you could love doing. But then maybe it worked for C.S. Lewis, but maybe because he had already found his passion.
  • helloplanets 3y ago
    There's definitely a happy medium here. I guess the important point comes at the end of the article. You'll basically end up inside some kind of Ring either way, with the disctinction being that the Ring is the byproduct instead of the be-all end-all. > If in your spare time you consort simply with the people you like, you will again find that you have come unawares to a real inside: that you are indeed snug and safe at the centre of something which, seen from without, would look exactly like an Inner Ring. > But the difference is that the secrecy is accidental, and its exclusiveness a by-product, and no one was led thither by the lure of the esoteric: for it is only four or five people who like one another meeting to do things that they like. This is friendship. Aristotle placed it among the virtues. It causes perhaps half of all the happiness in the world, and no Inner Ring can ever have it.