I think you did not got my point. My point is not that it is self-centered to "break the flow" (or whatever you call the reason that makes asking a question dis

I think you did not got my point. My point is not that it is self-centered to "break the flow" (or whatever you call the reason that makes asking a question disruptive). My point is that we had a situation where at least one person is going to adapt. The person self-centered is the one saying "the good solution is to have the other person adapt". I'm NOT saying that the good solution is to have the other person adapt, I'm saying "why are you saying that having the other person adapt is the best solution? That's self-centered". You answer me by saying "you are asking me to adapt to you, so, you are self-centered". But I don't ask that. I don't force anyone. I'm just saying "why are you upset that this guy is forcing you to adapt to him but think that you forcing him to adapt to you is not self-centered". I see the situation as very very symmetrical: Some people needs A to be efficient, some people needs non-A to be efficient. One aspect of the problem is that some people say "I like A, so let me just do A, and I let you non-A". But in reality, they don't let them do non-A. If you are a team of 2, and that you like not receiving questions but that your coworker like to ask question, there is no situation where we satisfy both. The only solution is to act like adult and accept that I will do less A than I would have liked, but my coworker will do less non-A that they would have liked. But here, some are saying "no! I want to do all A and it's to my coworker to adapt fully".