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I believe that's not something that should be celebrated. It's exactly the same as someone decides to live as a character from the future or from dnd. Probably

by J_cst 3y ago

I believe that's not something that should be celebrated. It's exactly the same as someone decides to live as a character from the future or from dnd. Probably he will not be able to integrate within the society and possibly will end up being the 'weirdo' one at best. Possibly he missed someone that simply told him that that's not normal or a wise choice. Possibly he missed someone with eyes to see that that's a no go and with a voice to make him reflect about that. I wish him all the best. Sorry I'm not one of the team of the politically correct/everything is valid because it seems like a choice (but it's not).

Philpax 3y ago
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- J_cst 3y ago
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llsf 3y ago
He seems happy with his choice of life. He might enjoy his life, even without internet, modern music or technology. Interesting experiment for sure.
- J_cst 3y ago
  My hypothesis is that it's not a choice, thank you for your comment!
PhasmaFelis 3y ago
> Probably he will not be able to integrate within the society and possibly will end up being the 'weirdo' one at best. Possibly he missed someone that simply told him that that's not normal or a wise choice. Possibly he missed someone with eyes to see that that's a no go and with a voice to make him reflect about that. Yeah, I met plenty of guys like you in high school when I started wearing a trenchcoat. I seem to have come out all right. And now I'm an actual grown-up and nobody cares whether I'm "normal" or a "weirdo" by high school standards.
- hnbad 3y ago
  But just think of how much worse you would have turned out if nobody had constantly pointed out how much of a freak you are for wearing a trenchcoat! /s More seriously, this perfectly parallels the myth around the supposed utility of "fat shaming". People who dislike fat people justify their harassment of fat people by claiming that NOT making fat people uncomfortable will just make them get fatter / make others get fat as well because they would then think being fat is okay. On the other hand actual research shows that fat people are often self-conscious about their weight to begin with and being shamed actually contributes to behaviors like emotional overeating or avoiding physical exercise (e.g. even avoiding walking anywhere because being in public opens you up to negative comments). The hard truth about hard truths is that they're usually bullshit. Being a dick does not help your victims, it just hurts them. Punishing your child does not help them grow thicker skin, it just makes them emotionally broken. Letting poor people starve does not encourage them to pull themselves up by their bootstraps, it just makes more of them suffer and die. Ignoring child mortality does not lead to better family planning, it just leads to more dead children. If the kid wants to be a little 1940s freak, let him be that as long as he doesn't hurt anyone. If there's genuine worries about his guardians manipulating him, that's tangential at best and troubling in its own right, 1940s or not.
  - qup 3y ago
    > If the kid wants to be a little 1940s freak, let him be that as long as he doesn't hurt anyone. My personal philosophy is not only should we let people be wildly different, we should encourage it. It's nice to have different experiments running. I don't trust the average opinion to have arrived at the correct answers for anything. Maybe this kid will figure out something important from his lifestyle, and share it with us. I similarly like nationalism because it helps preserve distinct cultures, despite having some drawbacks. The more distinct cultures, the better, IMO. If the main criticism of this kid is "he should be more like everyone else"...I just fundamentally disagree. He should not. I wish more people would make their own choices, and quit trying to achieve what everyone else says they ought to.
    - hnbad 3y ago

by J_cst 3y ago

Philpax 3y ago

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J_cst 3y ago
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llsf 3y ago

He seems happy with his choice of life. He might enjoy his life, even without internet, modern music or technology. Interesting experiment for sure.

J_cst 3y ago
My hypothesis is that it's not a choice, thank you for your comment!

PhasmaFelis 3y ago

> Probably he will not be able to integrate within the society and possibly will end up being the 'weirdo' one at best. Possibly he missed someone that simply told him that that's not normal or a wise choice. Possibly he missed someone with eyes to see that that's a no go and with a voice to make him reflect about that. Yeah, I met plenty of guys like you in high school when I started wearing a trenchcoat. I seem to have come out all right. And now I'm an actual grown-up and nobody cares whether I'm "normal" or a "weirdo" by high school standards.

hnbad 3y ago
But just think of how much worse you would have turned out if nobody had constantly pointed out how much of a freak you are for wearing a trenchcoat! /s More seriously, this perfectly parallels the myth around the supposed utility of "fat shaming". People who dislike fat people justify their harassment of fat people by claiming that NOT making fat people uncomfortable will just make them get fatter / make others get fat as well because they would then think being fat is okay. On the other hand actual research shows that fat people are often self-conscious about their weight to begin with and being shamed actually contributes to behaviors like emotional overeating or avoiding physical exercise (e.g. even avoiding walking anywhere because being in public opens you up to negative comments). The hard truth about hard truths is that they're usually bullshit. Being a dick does not help your victims, it just hurts them. Punishing your child does not help them grow thicker skin, it just makes them emotionally broken. Letting poor people starve does not encourage them to pull themselves up by their bootstraps, it just makes more of them suffer and die. Ignoring child mortality does not lead to better family planning, it just leads to more dead children. If the kid wants to be a little 1940s freak, let him be that as long as he doesn't hurt anyone. If there's genuine worries about his guardians manipulating him, that's tangential at best and troubling in its own right, 1940s or not.
- qup 3y ago
  > If the kid wants to be a little 1940s freak, let him be that as long as he doesn't hurt anyone. My personal philosophy is not only should we let people be wildly different, we should encourage it. It's nice to have different experiments running. I don't trust the average opinion to have arrived at the correct answers for anything. Maybe this kid will figure out something important from his lifestyle, and share it with us. I similarly like nationalism because it helps preserve distinct cultures, despite having some drawbacks. The more distinct cultures, the better, IMO. If the main criticism of this kid is "he should be more like everyone else"...I just fundamentally disagree. He should not. I wish more people would make their own choices, and quit trying to achieve what everyone else says they ought to.
  - hnbad 3y ago