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> As Charlie Munger used to say: figure out what works and then do it. I don't think that "upward social mobility" should be our only metric. > But imagine yo

> As Charlie Munger used to say: figure out what works and then do it. I don't think that "upward social mobility" should be our only metric. > But imagine you’re in a third world village, and at the edge of survival to begin with. Your mom and dad are “no longer in love.” Dad leaves, and the mom and kids starve to death immediately. That’s why most traditional societies have strong norms against divorce. Most traditional societies don't have nuclear families, with 2.4 children and only two adults to raise them in the suburbs outside of a large city.

rayiner 3y ago
Children of divorce do worse on a wide range of wellbeing metrics: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4240051/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4240051/ (“Nearly three decades of research evaluating the impact of family structure on the health and well-being of children demonstrates that children living with their married, biological parents consistently have better physical, emotional, and academic well-being. Pediatricians and society should promote the family structure that has the best chance of producing healthy children. The best scientific literature to date suggests that, with the exception of parents faced with unresolvable marital violence, children fare better when parents work at maintaining the marriage.”) Life is full of trade offs. No need to delude yourself into thinking divorce, in the typical case, isn’t a trade off between your well being and your kid’s.
nec4b 3y ago
I'm not aware of any traditional society which does not have a nuclear family at its core. Hence why marriage is such a big deal in traditional societies. Living close to the extended family or having close relations with other neighbors doesn't mean the core isn't a nuclear family. The only places where nuclear families are not that important are in primitive tribes.

rayiner 3y ago

Children of divorce do worse on a wide range of wellbeing metrics: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4240051/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4240051/ (“Nearly three decades of research evaluating the impact of family structure on the health and well-being of children demonstrates that children living with their married, biological parents consistently have better physical, emotional, and academic well-being. Pediatricians and society should promote the family structure that has the best chance of producing healthy children. The best scientific literature to date suggests that, with the exception of parents faced with unresolvable marital violence, children fare better when parents work at maintaining the marriage.”) Life is full of trade offs. No need to delude yourself into thinking divorce, in the typical case, isn’t a trade off between your well being and your kid’s.

nec4b 3y ago

I'm not aware of any traditional society which does not have a nuclear family at its core. Hence why marriage is such a big deal in traditional societies. Living close to the extended family or having close relations with other neighbors doesn't mean the core isn't a nuclear family. The only places where nuclear families are not that important are in primitive tribes.