> really moving my life forward rather than languishing I think a good goal would be to understand what you actually mean by languishing. Which depends on what

> really moving my life forward rather than languishing I think a good goal would be to understand what you actually mean by languishing. Which depends on what meaning you think life has now. Otherwise it seems like you want a goal just for a goals sake. Your notes about "I don’t seem to be any further ahead than those people that..." is specially telling that you're not setting yourself goals that you want, you're setting up goals to feel like you "won" the year vs other people. Maybe a good goal could be find what truly motivates you and gives you joy intrinsically. Try new activities that give you joy. Once you find them you'll have no problem setting up goals, because you won't be setting them up "to have a good year" but rather they are just a list of things you genuinely want to do regardless of how well you do them or if you even get good at it.