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> I’ve talked to friends who’ve lost a spouse, sometimes to death and sometimes to savage divorce, and they universally say that one of the unexpectedly hardest
by throwitaway1123 3y ago
> I’ve talked to friends who’ve lost a spouse, sometimes to death and sometimes to savage divorce, and they universally say that one of the unexpectedly hardest things is not being able to ask: Remember that one place? Or that time? Remember when I…?
Wow, the author managed to capture the feeling of loss perfectly here.
- rafabulsing 3y agoI've come to call that "phantom lover syndrome". Spending a long time with some one, they really become part of you (and vice-versa), and not just metaphorically. The brain keeps reflexively sending signals in that direction, and the void where there used to be a response can be very painful.