> the server is impatiently watching you yyeeaahh but that's not really my problem though you've got to keep in mind, this approach to tipping is the employer

> the server is impatiently watching you yyeeaahh but that's not really my problem though you've got to keep in mind, this approach to tipping is the employer setting the customer against the employee - the employee might think you're their foe, but the truth is, it's both of you against their bosses. they can be pissy about it all they like, but you don't have to be responsible for their lack of perspective, and you definitely don't have to cave to peer pressure. if anything, you should be very very suspicious of situations where you're pressured to pay, period.