>as if all their life was leading up to this moment, in which they’ve achieved peak selfhood. This is literally true. Absent of a serious mind practice, our me

>as if all their life was leading up to this moment, in which they’ve achieved peak selfhood. This is literally true. Absent of a serious mind practice, our memories are built upon the sands of rationalization. Looking back is not a reliving, it's more like a realization that changes happen. Looking forward? We are notoriously poor at guessing our future mindsets, especially charting a course to happiness. Aversion leads us towards suffering, the dissonance between what we think the world should be vs what it is. The same goes for desire. Fortunately, we are adaptable, almost infinitely malleable, in the present moment, although our ego makes us resist this ... pliability. I used to think in terms of future me and past me also, until I drew a line in the sands of my rationalizations, and focused on the present moment. Future me, his joys and sorrows, his problems and their solutions, are above my pay grade, because he is as far from me as the edge of spacetime. There are two ways to help him: Live in the present moment, so he has memories of the wonder of incarnation, and cultivate mental and physical suppleness, so his options remain open. I would say to the article writer... revel with thy beloved as you observe the wonder of the present moment. You are not responsible for all the moments that make up a life. Goodluck. Goodluck.