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There really isn't a respectful way I can say this. Please reach out and speak to a therapist or similar professional. This stream of consciousness where you

by ctoth 3y ago

There really isn't a respectful way I can say this. Please reach out and speak to a therapist or similar professional. This stream of consciousness where you talk about personally reaching out to random CEOs and expecting them to do things for you and being surprised when you don't get a response reminds me strongly of when someone close to me was going through a manic period of delusional breakdown. Please, talk to someone.

abeppu 3y ago
I dunno if this is a fair reading of the situation. - Microsoft is famously a company that has engaged in anti-competitive practices in the past - I think the norm of trying to directly contact a party and ask them to fix something before contacting authorities is a common one at more personal scales, and it's not unreasonable to apply more broadly. - they're not reaching out to a "random" CEO, they're reaching out to the CEO of a company which has put forward these anti-competitive terms, which they find objectionable (possibly illegal? see my question above) - bionhoward doesn't necessarily seem 'surprised' at not having gotten their desired response. The phrasing in "but im a nobody so hey, what do i know?", "tried a billion ways to remedy by contacting them directly", "I meekly suggest" all can be read as someone who _recognizes_ that they're a single person being ignored by giant companies (and by other HN commentators). The fact that you're likely to be ignored doesn't mean that you shouldn't try, if you have some deontic view of "should". I think that post could be read as a very casual, perhaps slightly rant-y style, of someone objecting to anti-competitive practices by some big tech organizations, and trying to do the "right" things (of requesting them to change, and then raising the issue with relevant authorities), and being understandably unhappy with the brokenness of the system.
- dwaltrip 3y ago
  Something seems off. Look at the website in their HN profile and their LinkedIn. They may need help. Bion, if you are reading this, I hope you are doing okay buddy. It’s never too late to ask for help. As someone who has been through the absolute ringer myself, I know how hard it is. But it is worth it and you deserve it. Sending love your way.
- stavros 3y ago
  For what it's worth, I got worried reading that as well. There's nothing wrong with saying "that cough sounds bad, you should see a doctor", what's wrong with saying "your thought process sounds off, you should see a doctor"? The only thing wrong with that is if you're of the opinion that mental illness is bad, and therefore that implying that someone is mentally ill is bad. I'm not saying your intent is bad, I'm saying we should make mental illness enough of a non-taboo that we can acceptably tell someone "hm, maybe you should see a doctor for that".

by ctoth 3y ago

abeppu 3y ago

I dunno if this is a fair reading of the situation. - Microsoft is famously a company that has engaged in anti-competitive practices in the past - I think the norm of trying to directly contact a party and ask them to fix something before contacting authorities is a common one at more personal scales, and it's not unreasonable to apply more broadly. - they're not reaching out to a "random" CEO, they're reaching out to the CEO of a company which has put forward these anti-competitive terms, which they find objectionable (possibly illegal? see my question above) - bionhoward doesn't necessarily seem 'surprised' at not having gotten their desired response. The phrasing in "but im a nobody so hey, what do i know?", "tried a billion ways to remedy by contacting them directly", "I meekly suggest" all can be read as someone who _recognizes_ that they're a single person being ignored by giant companies (and by other HN commentators). The fact that you're likely to be ignored doesn't mean that you shouldn't try, if you have some deontic view of "should". I think that post could be read as a very casual, perhaps slightly rant-y style, of someone objecting to anti-competitive practices by some big tech organizations, and trying to do the "right" things (of requesting them to change, and then raising the issue with relevant authorities), and being understandably unhappy with the brokenness of the system.

dwaltrip 3y ago
Something seems off. Look at the website in their HN profile and their LinkedIn. They may need help. Bion, if you are reading this, I hope you are doing okay buddy. It’s never too late to ask for help. As someone who has been through the absolute ringer myself, I know how hard it is. But it is worth it and you deserve it. Sending love your way.
stavros 3y ago
For what it's worth, I got worried reading that as well. There's nothing wrong with saying "that cough sounds bad, you should see a doctor", what's wrong with saying "your thought process sounds off, you should see a doctor"? The only thing wrong with that is if you're of the opinion that mental illness is bad, and therefore that implying that someone is mentally ill is bad. I'm not saying your intent is bad, I'm saying we should make mental illness enough of a non-taboo that we can acceptably tell someone "hm, maybe you should see a doctor for that".